I'm starting to hate my dad...?

Question

My parents are still together (they can't get divorced or we'd have to sell our house, unfortunately). I've never had the best relationship with my dad, but I've never felt like it was a real problem before. It's finally coming to a head though. Everything he says seems condescending and conceited, even if it's not meant that way. He acts like I know nothing about life. I'm normally a very articulate person, but around him I get flustered and he always whittles away at my arguments until they're completely null and void. When he's talking I can't help but thinking how wonderful it would be to strangle him... that's really disturbing to me. I don't want to kill him (that's totally against my nature) but I just want to see him afraid and in pain, the way he makes me feel.

Answer 1

Why don't you talk to him about how you feel?

If you don't feel comfortable talking to him, how about writing him a letter? Let him know that you have felt sad that nothing you seem to say seems to be good enough for him....

Writing it all out in a letter will help you be able to get ALL of your opinions/feelings out before he has the chance to fluster you.

I am guessing that you are a teenager right? A lot of teenagers go through periods where their parents annoy them; but honestly (being an adult) most of the times that my parents annoyed me, they were just trying to do their best to love and protect me.

I know it is rough being a teenager, I have been there too....so, why don't you try and write a note to your dad...1 page, or 100 pages, and hopefully he will take the time to finally validate your feelings.

Best of luck

Answer 2

You are seeing him afraid and in pain and he is taking it out on you.  It is his reaction to all the trouble you and your mother and him are having and it is hurting hurting him and whether or not he even realizes it he is taking it out on you.  Instead of strangling him, why don't you two try to sit down and talk and face facts together.  That would be the best way.  When I got divorced from my children's father, it hurt them.  The whole thing and I had to help them as best as I could.  So try talking it helped us.  And tell him what I have relayed to you.  Good luck and may the Lord help you..