I'm stuck I NEED HELP URGENT PLZ!

Question

I dated this guy for 7 months. First four months were great, but then we had some problems..he broke my trust repeatedly and hurt me a lot. After another painful 3 months I decided to end it because it wasn't getting better. Now I've been talking to another guy and I'm really starting to like him. He likes me too. But my ex boyfriend keeps talking to me still and telling me he loves me. He says he will die without me and how he needs me so badly. He threatens to die if I leave him completely and go out with someone else. He needs me to be there for him as a girlfriend. I still care about him so much and I hate to see him hurting like this. I know he is truly sorry for what he did in the past but too much has happened since then and it's too late now. I don't know what to do. I can't forget about him because I hate to see him hurting like this and crying all the time. But I really like this other guy and I feel I can't pursue this other guy now because of my ex boyfriend's feelings. I don't know what to do PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

You need to tell one of his friend or his parents or someone close to him about this and then just walk away. Its not your responsibility to take care of him but you cant ignore it either, inform someone and then cut contact. Go out with that other guy and live your life... he is trying to control you with fear, DONT let him.

Answer 2

I sense warning signs of an abusive relationship. Take care of yourself first and don't let him control you. Talk to someone close to him and have them sort out his emotional issues. You deserve to be happy without him manipulating your feelings.

Answer 3

This one is simple. If you are still in love with him then try again. However, if you only feel sorry for him then move on. He is the loser for betraying you. Was he crying when he cheated on you? I don't think so. He is a bum that will not change. Give the new guy a shot. You might be surprised. There are plenty of guys that will concentrate on his relationship with you, not his selfish needs. Good luck.

Answer 4

It is not your responsibility to make your ex feel good or not die.  You did the right thing in ending the relationship.  He still has a hold over you because you are still talking to him.  Tell his parents about his threats about dieing.  Stop taking calls from him.  Don't talk to him.  He had his chances with you and it is over.  In order to pursue a real relationship, you must let him go so you can be more open to the new one.  It is time for you to really let go.

Best wishes to you.