I'm the father of a 3 year old son who pees sitting. Any fathers have advice on getting him to stand up?

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I'm the father of a 3 year old son who pees sitting. Any fathers have advice on getting him to stand up?

Answer 1

My friend had a little boy who did the same thing (she was a single mum, therefore couldn't show him!)

The ping pong ball idea worked really well for him, although a bit messy to start off with, he learnt in no time.

Also a stool to stand up on will help him out.

Whatever you do make sure its approached in a fun, positive way.

There is also some kind of a target you can buy to put in the toilet bowl, which changes colour when they hit it...this may do the trick!

Goodluck :)

Answer 2

You shouldn't even contemplate him standing at

the moment.

You may not think so but he is still a baby.

He Will stand up once he is good and ready,

Which may not be until he starts school!

IT'S Great that he uses the loo,many 3yr,Young's are still very much in nappies or wetting themselves on a regular basis.

sources! Mother of 2 boys.

35 @ 26 yrs:

Answer 3

My son will be 4 in October. He just started to pee standing up about a month ago .I wouldn't worry he will stand up in his own time

Answer 4

have u tried taking him inot the rr to observe u using the rr? maybe seeing daddy stand while using h**l eventually would like to try it to. make a small game of it. i would tell my son to aim at the back of the toilet, ha and my mom would say throw a few cheerios in and tell him if he can get em! things like that r fun for kids... then again hes just a lil boy still. h**l grow out of it

Answer 5

He will do this is he get older ask hem their reason he not sitting some jest boy,s aunt ready to stand till 5 or later

Answer 6

I'm not a daddy but my son is 2y and 4m old old and pees standing up and started to do so within week 2 of potty training. At first my husband took him to the bathroom everytime he went and he started to want to go like daddy. Everytime he was sitting down and the pee would come he would say blast off so then one day I had him stand up and try and sure enough he said "ready set blast off" and he would start peeing standing up .. Now for better aim and to not have pee all over the floor I put a ping pong ball in the toilet for him to aim at, it doesn't flush and its been working great. Goodluck

Answer 7

You may actually want to leave alone about this one. If your concern is about his manhood,forget it,he's still a baby!

Answer 8

As a mother of a son, all I can say is don't worry about him peeing sitting. He will get the hang of standing soon enough, maybe the toilet is a little high for him.

It is probably better for him to sit anyway at the moment - little boys aim isn't that great, and they seem to love it when the pee goes anywhere rather than down the toilet!

Answer 9

Good old Scottish trick for getting boys to use the toilet! Get a ping pong ball and draw something on it with permanent pen, think of something particular your child would relate to or just a sad face on one side, smiley face on the other and get him to aim for it with his pee. A star chart would be taking things a bit too far! but hopefully you can see the fun that could be had in this  and childhood should be all about fun stuff. Good luck

Answer 10

First off, he's 3 he may not be tall enough, plus his aim isn't going to be that good and that makes more work for whoever has the chore of cleaning the bathroom.  I realize that a lot of men want their sons to be like them it's a natural instinct.  Maybe you associate peeing standing up is more manly than sitting, but you might want to consider that your definition of "manly" behavior is not universal and you don't want to send your son the message that he's not manly enough because he chooses to pee sitting down for now.  A child’s biggest influence is their same s*x parent (mom daughter, dad son) you are his hero and kids pick up on subtle things and you wouldn't want him to think he's not man enough or good enough to please you.

Consider the fact that not all men prefer to stand it's a preference and comfort thing.  Let him decide what he likes. Since he's only 3 he's probably not at school yet, when he goes to school and sees other little boys using the urinal he'll probably follow along with what his peers are doing.  So don't worry let him do what he feels comfortable with for now.  It's not worth the risk of making him feel inadequate in front of his hero "You"

Answer 11

Not a father but I do (not me personally of course!) have experience of this!  If he doesn't socialise with other boys of his age group who do this for him to see and copy (nursery, playgroups etc) try showing him a new game.  Now the weather is a little better (hah!) take a potty into the garden and put a ping pong ball in it.  Let him know if he wants to pee to try and 'shoot' the ping pong ball!  This also works in the regular toilet if he prefers to use it but he might not have the greatest control over direction at first so the garden would mean less to clean up!  

Good Luck!

Answer 12

Has he been trained on a potty if so sitting down would be best practise as after all you don't want him spraying the walls.

Education is the key here. When he is older and you take him to the toilet while you are out and about you can introduce him to the big boys toilet where he will have to stand up. It may be a struggle at first but he will get used to it.

We all learn things at different times in our lives and as he is only 3 then I wouldn't worry too much.

Answer 13

my lil brother always used to stand up.

Answer 14

Hi. I have just potty trained my little boy, he is almost 2 and a half. At the moment he sits, but when I start to teach him to stand, I am going to use either the magic water trick, or the cheerios! The magic water trick is you put blue food colouring into the pan and when he wees he can see the water change to green because he is standing up. The cheerios can be used as target practice! Put 3 or 4 in the bowl and see if he can get them with his wee!

These are tips that I have been given by friends who have taught there boys to stand up.

Another good idea is to let him watch you stand up and wee. I know it sounds disgusting, but he may want to be like daddy and do it the big boy way, and just do it on his own accord. Just make sure you have a stool ready at the toilet so that he can reach!

Answer 15

I have used cereal ( froot loops, Cheerios) just drop a couple in the toilet and have him aim at them, he'll think it's a game, and have to stand to do it....

Answer 16

Hi there. I am not actually a father but ... a mother of a son. And my son did use to sit and pee as well. However, I would say the best thing to do is if he were to see other children is age pee standing up, then he too will learn. However, it is NOT a good idea for you to pee standing up and show him yourself. You know .. the adult thing and the baby thing dont mesh right and besides that ... it wont work for him. He will need to see his peers. My son peed sitting for a while and once he saw my little brother who was four (4) pee standing, then he never peed sitting again. He is still three going on four. Dont force him. He will get it ... soon I promise!

Answer 17

one of my nephews used to do that and no one can make him stand up to pee.. then he went to pre-school and he saw other kids pee standing up.. so he does the same now.

So don't worry.. he'll correct himself later

Answer 18

Buy him a lower toilet! Of course he prefers to pee sitting down at the moment, as he gets a little taller and sees that other boys pee standing up, he will do the same. The one sure way i know, however, if getting a male child to pee standing up..it to allow him to do so in the open air..ie, against the tyre of your car when he needs to go and you are out..but then of course you have to teach him not to pee outside after all..your choice.

Answer 19

tel him to stand up and hold his pee pee right or tell him thats what girls do if u do that you have the coodies  lol try it

Answer 20

I'm a mother to 3 boys!  Youngest is almost a year old so not at this stage with him yet, but my older two initially learned to pee sitting down i.e., on potty!  However, when they went from potty to toilet thats when they would stand up and pee but it was actually something they themselves wanted to do - so i would just wait and he will eventually do it himself.  But beware that you will need to help in the aiming department!! Constantly cleaning pee off the back of the toilet is something that comes with this early stage too.  

P.s. A friend who recently laid our bathroom floor actually said that he wishes parents never taught their kids to pee standing up because when they do bathroom floors the back of the toilet is notorious for being the worst smelling place in any room of the house!!! and most usually in the homes of those with little boys!!!