I'm thinking about adopting a kid but is it a good idea? Do they tent to be rebels?

Question

Or as what TV makes it look like, the lonely kid that no one cares about or the rebel that always complaints to her parents.

Any suggestions?

Answer 1

No, in most cases because, well if u adopt a grown kid he has his believes already and it will be hard to educate a kid like that so i'll recommend to adopt a little baby that u can educate and teach him ur belives!!

love,

s**y mama!@!

Answer 2

I'm adopted and let me tell you what I'm like....

34 year old, never in trouble, loved school,

got a Master's Degree, now an English teacher,

very Christian, active in church, loves everyone.

Does that sound like a rebel to you? Life is a gift and a blessing because I know my birthmother could have made other choices, but she chose to give me a chance, and I thank God for her and for my family who raised me.

Answer 3

both my brothers and i were adopted my older brother is in medical school my younger brother graduation from boot camp next week and i am in a police academy if we had not been adopted i do not belive our paths would have been the same

Answer 4

We adopted a young teenager from Africa less than a year ago.  She's been through a lot and coming into a family has been tough after being pretty much on her own in an orphanage.  We are seeing progress, though.  She really loves having a dad. She is great with my husband and obeys him quickly most of the time.  She tests me more probably because she was cared for by women in the orphanage and most of them  beat her.  She is in counseling for post tramatic stress for all that she went through in her war torn country.  I believe she will pull through very well.  If you can tough it out in the rebellious times and keep loving, go for it.  So many older kids need a loving family.  You can save and change a life.  Yes, they might rebel. I won't lie about it. You can still make a difference by giving the child parents who can model a better way of life.

Answer 5

My suggestion is to watch less TV....LOL  No, adopted children are no different than biological ones as long as they are treated well.   Maybe you're thinking about kids that have lived in foster homes all of their lives....that is a different story as many are abused and/or neglected.

Answer 6

No more than natural born children do.

Answer 7

That depends on the child, one of the psychologists that Ive talked to (i want to adopt in the near future) told me that to both adopted or biological children, have their own sense of self, and as different as siblings can be (biological) the non biological ones can be as different, as shy or as extroverted as anyone else in our own families.

Were am I going, theres nothing love cant fix (or at least try to).

Answer 8

If you need to worry about that then you maybe you shouldnt adopt.

Answer 9

Adopted children do not rebel more often than biological children.  If you adopt older children, they carry a bit of their past with them, but with love, and parenting skills, these can be overcome.  We adopted our 9 year old from the foster care system when he was 5.  He is wonderful!  Also, don't let people discourage you from adopting an older child.  Think about it, if everyone wanted an infant, what would happen to the rest of the children...also, those infants grow up (of course they do, that's what children do).  Children can tell if they are loved.  If you treat the adopted child like an outsider, he will feel like an outsider.  If you treat him like the member of your family that he is, he will not rebel.

Answer 10

Any child can be rebellious at times. I grew up in foster care and have never been as rebellious as most of my friends who were raised by their birth parents. A lot of it has to do with what a child has been through before they come to you, how equipped they are to deal with their past and how supported and loved they feel. I also work with foster youth for a living and find that it has a lot to do with how they perceive their past, present and future. If you can help them to stay positive, a lot of foster and adopted youth become awesome adults.

Answer 11

Sometimes an adopted child (depending on the age at adoption) can come with a little baggage but any child can be a rebel.

Answer 12

I think tv is full of ...... on that topic. Adopted children are just like any other child, regardelss of race. I'm adopted from Chile into an all australian family and have not been rebelious any more than any other child. and it certainly wasnt because of being adopted.

Answer 13

well that is a GREAT idea because the child was not wanted or couldnt be tookin care of so you are willing to take care of them so that is a good idea and kind of i guess not really are they rebles

Answer 14

Umm, i think the real question should be, do i really want a child... Any child, adopted or not can become a rebel, the loner,  its all about the love and attention you give them, and the envoirment that there raised in. I suppose that older adopted children may be more susceptible to depression, anxiety etc because of the life they have already been dealt, but if you adopted a baby/toddler, those issues may not arise.. it depends on the child's nature?

Answer 15

Adoption is great you never know how the kid is going to turn out but adoption has nothing to do with that because you can give birth to a kid that ends up really screwed up.

Answer 16

Do kids rebel?  Yes!

But children who have been adopted are certainly NOT the "lonely kids that no one cares about"!!!!  They are mostly very well adjusted, better than average I.Q., socially skilled, popular, and cherished beyond words!

You have been watching the wrong channel!  You need a dose of reality -- so stop watching Lifetime!

Uh, maybe you should rethink this parent thing.  You may not be parent material,

Answer 17

some foster children will tend to rebel. it is all based on how they were treated by their biological parents before being put up for adoption.  if a child was neglected or beaten or treated poorly, they are going to reject any sense of comfort and affection from the foster parent, and vice versa.  if a child isn't used to receiving it, they won't want it.

Answer 18

i adopted a six month old who i just got 3 days ago my third adopted child they do not act like rebels they feel like your own nothing different about them they just didn't come from you which is OK you are bascily saving a childs life.

I hope that helps you alot

Answer 19

Any child can be a rebel  but I a firm believer that a child does not raise themselves.  It takes a parent to raise them.  A lot of their "rebel" can be overcome by a gifted parent.

Answer 20

i was taken away from my biological folks when i was 5 and adopted when i was 7. i think the behavior of the child will depend on the type of situation there coming out of but remember its not just the biological home that they could experience bad situations from bc i had bad xperiences in foster homes to. my mom and dad were very patient and understanding with me.they were always there to talk if i needed to,they got me a counsler to help me to  coop. yes i rebeled but not bc i was adopted but just simply bc thats what children do. i say if you truley are serious about adopting a child do it. dont take the first one you see though, investigatethe childs life and see what they have been through ask youreself if you will be able to deal with issues that may come up and most of all follow youre heart my mom and dad adopted 3 girls and they said the instance they saw each one of us they new bc other children they saw did not give them the feeling we did. they knew instantly we were suppose to be theres. im 26 today and i love my parents deeply and if you ask me who my biological parents are and do i want to meet them i will tell you no and no bc i dont need to bc as far as im concerned my biological parents are my mom and dad i have now they are the ones that taught me what being a woman is all about i have 3 children of my own now and would love to give back to my mom and dad and adopt my own bc so many children in this world are suffering and just need love. oh and i am proud to say im adopted!!!!!!!

Answer 21

I was adopted when I was 3 days old. I'm now 21. I can't really say I was rebellious because I was adopted, but I was rebellious because I was a teen.

TV is not always right, but I know from, what you could say was a support group, that a few friends that were adopted as teens are more likely to rebel than others likes me who were adopted as babies probably 5 years and under.

I would definitely adopt, which I might in a few years.

My opinion would be try to adopt a child from your area or at least within the US. There are just as many children in the US who are looking for families as there are over seas.

Answer 22

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Answer 23

That Is a great idea! God Bless You. Kids that live at a Foster Home need to be loved to! If you dont mind me telling you that I think if this is your first adoption then dont adopt a little one half way across the world....They cost tons of money...and you have to go through so much stuff. Adopt one at your local Foster Home! I wish you luck.

Answer 24

usually if you adopt someone over 1 year they have very many problems.

Answer 25

I think adoption is a wonderful thing. If it weren't for adoption my aunt would not have children. I have had many friends who were adopted and a couple that were biological children of their parents with adopted siblings. If you show that child that they are loved and respected no matter what they will grow up with the same respect for you that your biological child would. Yes, it is sad to say that some kids when adopted much older have so much baggage that they have trouble accepting the love and comfort (my aunt went through this with a 16 year old she adopted) but older children need permanance too. Whatever age you choose to adopt, I think you are doing a wonderful thing that will enrich your life forever. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 26

Every child is the same, no matter if they are adopted or not. A child will act the way they are taught. If you teach them to be respectful, thats how they will be. But if you leave them aside and not care for them, of course they will become rebels because you're not giving them enough love to show that you care. Ones child will be loved because he/she has their real parents with them, but one who is adopted should know they are adopted and be loved even more because even though you're not the real parent you're showing how much you care no matter what.    Adopting a child is the most precious thing you can do for the need.

Answer 27

Im adopted and i was BAD during my teenage years but i grew out of it i think all kids go threw that stage its a part of growin up