I'm thinking about becoming a surrogate mother?

Question

I'm 32 and have 5 of my own. I love being a mother,I told my mom about being a surrogate mother, she told me I was crazy..my husbend said I wouldnt give up the baby...but I really feel like become one ...what do you think?

Answer 1

I thought being a surrogate mother meant you carry someone elses baby not yours?

And thinking that i will answer:

Some questions you should ask yourself are how did the other 5 pregnancies go? If they didn't go according to plan i might rethink it..32 is a good age to still have a baby considering more mothers have premature births over 35 and under 19...And question your health do you drink? smoke? pop pills? Knowing your a mother of 5 you probably dont do any of that. I think being a surrogate is about the greatest gift you could give and if you truly believe your up to it then yeah go for it.

--Best of Luck

Answer 2

i think its really good . there is so meany people who can not have children . but you dont want to up set things at home you both need to be happy with things you have 5 children off youre own to think about , good luck with every thing

Answer 3

What do I think? Hmmmm, honestly?

I think giving your baby away intentionally is cruel and horrible.  I think the child will feel confused, used and abandoned.  I think the child would want to know his/her siblings and wonder why this happened to him/her

I've read enough blogs of the humans created by surrogate/egg/sperm donation to know it causes them much anguish

I think how the child feels is paramount

Answer 4

I do not agree that being a surrogate mother is in anyway a noble thing.  Basically, your role is to subject your body into being an incubator for a child for a couple who wants to fight with mother nature's plan of life.  I do not understand why the couples who seek surrogacy can not just go with adoption if they want to parent a child? Please don't do it... Your poor children, how confusing for them if you did this. And for yourself.. ask any birthmother about the pain of relinquishing your child... most of them will tell you that it is a life long emptiness.  Why would you purposely subject yourself to that?  

By the way, You should see the movie "A Child Too Many", based on a true story.

Answer 5

I was on a number of courses of infertility drugs and hormones, at a lower level than what you would be put on to become a surrogate. It permanently messed up my body really bad in a lot of ways. Learn from my mistake. Why would you take a chance with your health? You need to remain healthy for your husband and 5 children.

The two people closest to you in life are telling you not to make this mistake. Doesn't their opinion mean more to you than a bunch of strangers on Yahoo?

Answer 6

I think you and your husband do need to be in agreement, but you also need to come to terms with the possibility that you might want to keep the baby - or at least know that it's natural to have those feelings.  If you work through a good agency, they should have counselors that work with you on those exact things.  I'm thinking the best way to avoid that is to make certain the family you work with has their own viable eggs and sperm, but cannot carry the baby to term.  So you really and truly are a surrogate only....just carrying the baby and it's truly and legally someone else's child.  It can be a very complicated, messy thing, but also a very wonderful thing for a family that wants a baby so badly.  What a great thing you may end up doing for someone.  Think it through, not an easy decision.

Answer 7

honestly, you can't do it unless you are completely 100% positive that you will give up the baby...without feeling terrible. because when you are a surrogate there is a legal agreement that says no matter what you want, that the "parents" are the legal gaurdians of the child.

Good luck.