I'm thinking about having another baby...?

Question

My husband and I already have a 21 month old girl. If we want more kids, we want them to be close in age. We know that if we want them close in age, we better do it now. I'm just very conflicted... is 3 years apart okay? Do you recommend that they not be far apart in age or does it not really matter in the end?

Any input would be great. Thanks. :)

Answer 1

my oldest was 2 1/2 when I got pregnant with my 2nd and it was a nightmare!! he was so use to being "the only child" that he hated the thought of a brother. Well 8 weeks after #2 was born I got pregnant with #3... they are 11months apart and the play so well with each other and he loves his baby sister.  two peas in a pod!!  I wish that I had my boys closer together.

It is not as hard as you think it will be. I find it easier.

Answer 2

Sounds fine to me.

It honestly doesn't matter about their age difference.

My twin&I have a 12 year age difference with my oldest sister.

The only thing that matters is that you're ready and you love that child just as much as your first.

Answer 3

Recommend they not be far apart.

Answer 4

It doesn't really matter.  My older sister was four years older then me and my younger sister was only a year younger.  I am close with both of them.  However, growing up I was closest with my younger sister.  Hope this helps.  

Answer 5

My eldest was 3 1/2 when my second child was born. My third child was born exactly a week before my second child turned 2. My third child is now 13 months and I've just found out I'm expecting again.

At the end of the day it's up to you and what you feel comfortable with. Personally I want all my kids to be quite close in age so that they can all grow up having someone to play with when they're young and having someone on the same level as them when they get older.

Answer 6

As far as your body is concerned it is clinically better to wait 18months between pregnancies. I have a 20 month old and I'm pregnant now. Just consider that there are pros and cons to having children close together... in my opinion the good outweighs the bad. I'd say go for it.

Answer 7

Personally... it's up to you and your partner on what age gap you like.

My opinion is... the closer the better (my daughter is 20 months on the 2nd of Sept, and I have 55 days to go until my son is due)... If we could of had it closer, we would of LOL!

My husband and his sister are 11.5 months apart... but they fight like cat and dogs. So again... it also depends on the individual (child) and the parenting skills to determine how they would behave around each other.

3 years apart in my opinion is perfect... the older child will be able to understand a lot better that another baby is on the way. I point to my bump and say "baby" to my daughter... but she takes it as in I AM BABY! haha so im not mum anymore LOL!

The older child could also try to overtake everything and try and 'control' aspects of the new baby... such as changes, feeding and even trying to take care of it all the time. So make sure you guys don't let the older child stay with the baby by themselves.

My cousin has an 8 year old son and a 20 month old daughter. He loves her to bits... but gets carried away! he tells his own mother to stop doing things with her (again the changing, feeding and whatever else)... it really gets on my nerves and hers too!

So yes.. talk to your partner... the choice is your guys one in the end

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

my son was 18 months when my daughter was born and he took to her very well!  he kisses her and pats her like a dog!lol but i think closer together is better!  i dont want our kids far apart either