I'm thirteen, i like this girl, and do i have a decent plan?

Question

please excuse my spelling its very late here, but i can't stop thinknig about her..

we've gone to the same school for two years. last year we never talked much at all. i first thought that she was one of the girls who considered her social statues above mosts. i was wrong. i hope.

this year i have talked to her, broken the ice, but havn't had a real conversation with her. even a joke. i mean, ive made her laugh in class, and we make eye contact, i smile at her. i think she likes me. anyways...

next friday i think im going to ask her out to a movie and the mall for a bit. not as a date. but say something along the lines of

'hey, tommorow do you want to go to the movies and then hang out at the mall for a bit?"

then afterwards if we both had a good time ask her if she wanted to do anything more and that i enjoyed her company? i can pay for both of us btw, i wouldnt be that *** who would make her pay.

anywho. from what i can tell we both like eachother well enough. we havnt broken the touch barrier yet either..

this is next friday too btw, so i think i can make a few social advancments in that time. maybe a few more laughs, and a conversation?

do i need to get to know her better though? because.. she really doesnt know much about me. what topics should i bring up with her in school? we really dont have much alone time...

anyways, dont say rejection isnt bad, i know. dont say 'just ask her out' give me a real response please.

Answer 1

dude movies suck u dont talk just stick with the mall if u have her number text her and ask her if she wants to hang out this week end maybe even go bowling. bowling is an easy icebreaker

if she made eyecontact she doesnt not like u so ur in good standing

Answer 2

Okay, kid. I'm sixteen here, and I know what you're going though. Asking on a first date i rough, really rough! It's hard to ask the girl, but you should be casual. Talk about something normal, you know, a light conversation. Then just lightly bring it up.

"Oh yeah, I'm going to the mall this weekend. Wanna come with?" or "Wanna hang out?"

If she likes you, which I bet she does, she'll say yes, but not without a "I have to ask my parents." since you're only thirteen.

Then make her laugh. Girls LOVE to laugh, and if a guy can make her laugh, she'll love it. But be nice, too and unexpectedly sweet to her. If she says she's nervous (which is a huge possibility) comfort her and say, "It's no problem, just relax and we'll have fun!" or something of the sort.

Afterwards, don't pull the "I had a great time" kinda thing. It would be better to be casual. "This was awesome! We should hang out again." She's bound to like you even more.

Good luck! And make sure to get her number, texting and phone calls are helpful for adding onto the relationship.

Answer 3

MAN JUST TALK TO HER ASK FOR HELP WITH YOUR HOMEWORK OR SOMETHING . AND IT MIGHT BE BETTER TO ASK HER OUT WHEN SHES NOT WITH A GROUP OF HER FRIENDS  GOOD LUCK LITTLE DUDE

Answer 4

sounds like you've really put a lot of thought into your plan and i think it'll work.  a lot of girls wish the guy they like would hurry up and ask them out already....sooo "just ask her out" (oops, i couldn't resist) but truthfully, if you dont' you might regret it a whole lot more than being regected (which is bad i won't lie, but it's a whole lot better than for years thinking gee, i wish i would have asked her out!) i sure hope that helps!!!!

Answer 5

I say why wait til next friday! Do it THIS Friday and see what happens! I think she may like you but without really having a true conversation its hard to tell. A movie and mall hangout could be a good way to get to know each other and if she likes you she'll want that. Good luck! ;-D

Answer 6

Your too

young to be

having girlfriends

Answer 7

iM A 13 YEAR OLD GiRL SO i KNO HOW YOU FEEL AND HOW EVERYTHiNG "WORKS" iN MiDDLE SCHOOL HAHA. i WOULD JUST TRY TO HANG OUT WiTH HER FiRST AND TALK TO HER AND GET TO KNOW HER, CUZ iF YOU JUST ASK HER OUT RiGHT ON THE SPOT i THiNK SHE'LL JUST KiNDA BE FREAKED OUT A LiTTLE, SO BECOME FRiENDS AND MAKE CONVERSATiON! :)

P.S. YOUR NOT TO YOUNG TO DATE AT 13!

HOPE i HELPED :)

Answer 8

no matter how hard you try you can never understand girls

but anything is worth a shot

Answer 9

     I really think you should. If she shows signs of liking you, then I bet she would really like that. What better things would she have to do anyway? And maybe before asking her, you know, follow what you think and talk to her more. That's a good idea to get to know eachother more. But really, I think she would like that.  

Answer 10

well, it's been my experience that you shouldn't get too close to her as friends, because then she'll only start to think of you as a close friend, rather than a potential boyfriend, but it's ultimately your decision.  I think you have a decent plan for right now, just don't move in too fast.  If the moment is right, then you could try holding her hand while at the movies, or you could try the old put your arm around her, but if you think that it's too soon for that, then maybe it is, as I said before, it's your decision if the moment is right.  One more thing:  Don't ask too many, if any, personal questions before or during the "friends date",  just go with the simple favorites and such, don't try too hard either, because then you might make her uncomfortable if you throw a lot of questions at her.  Ultimately, just be yourself, act normal, and you will do fine.

Answer 11

haha sounds good just take away the for a bit part at the end of your sentence.

Answer 12

Go for it. There's nothing wrong with two friends hanging out, and if it progresses into something, that's great for you! Keep up the convo. You'll get to know each other without being too forward. Hope everything works out.

(Good for you for not being the dirty boy trying find out how to get in her pants, also! You're very rare, she'd be lucky to have someone nice and not just horny.)

Good Luck!!!