I'm tired of being shy! HELP!!?

Question

Ok so i'm shy. Not in a way where i have no friends and such, i have many. I'm also very involved in school. i just don't speak up in class that often even though sometimes i really want to. (because i'm intimidated.. idk why..) Another thing is i feel intimidated talking to some people in the same clubs and such as me.

Here's an example: There was this group of people who are 2 years older in drama club with me for the past 2 years (they've all graduated.) I really felt that i had alot in common with them, but i waited for them to make the first move in friendship. It never happened.

Heres another: I feel like i sometimes live through my best friend, who is slightly more outgoing than me. If she makes a new friend whom i was shy towards before, i would use that to my advantage and try and become their friend also. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn't.

If anyone has any advice, it would beappreciatedd.

I'm 16 and a Junior in HS, if that helps.. :D

Answer 1

hello there!

i'm an Indonesian girl, and i'm 22 years young.

i know how it feels to be in your shoes, bcos i've been there before. nothing like growing pains :)

so, first thing you must realize is that IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD ONLY. those people you feel you're intimidated by? dear girl, they're just human like you.

maybe you have all of these fears: what if i give wrong answer to the teacher's question? what if they dont want to be my friends?

again, it's all in your head. people only see you as you see yourself.

if u think u're shy, not courageous, not confident, then it's what people think of you too.

here's a trick, think that those people p**p too, just like you. =D

so, with that thought, just step up to those people you want to get acquainted with. people are like mirror to you, if you smile, your reflection will smile too, right?

if you have nothing but good intentions towards them, then hey, why should worry? why should be shy?

one more thing you should know, we only get to know those who are meant for us.

flamingo flock with flamingo, and elephant flock with elephant. and sometimes, there are just some who dont flock at all, like eagle for instance.

so don't be disappointed that if the people you want to get to know dont feel the same way. it only means that you're not on the same terrain as they are. maybe someday you will, maybe you won't ever.

like you said, sometimes it works, other times it doesnt.

big deal, you dont lose anything, believe me.

i hope that can help you, even only a bit.

cheers!

  

Answer 2

Like what Jake said. Be more confident. Watch how your bestfriend does the communicating and really learn off her, take note of everything! Then comes the hard part, take a leap of faith and do what she does. Walk on your own two feet. Do it as though you were playing a character much like in your drama club. And don't worry so much about what others think. Your happiness is no.1 priority.

Put it this way, why be left wondering what could have been with missed opportunites if, rather, you actually did take a chance, stand up and speak out instead! :)

Answer 3

Grow a sack

...i mean that in the nicest way =)