I'm tired of my parents not believing in me and my doing it just to prove that I can?

Question

I've played soccer for 9 years. Why? Because my parents didn't think I could do it. I proved them wrong I was rewarded MVP.

I tried out for the Honor Society. Why? My parents didn't think I was going to make it. I proved them wrong I wrote one of the best papers, and made it into the Society.

I study my heart out. Why? Because they don't think that I could get good grades. I proved them wrong, I got all A's every class, every marking period.

I got a job. Why? Because my parents didn't believe that I could "work". I proved them wrong, I worked 12 hour days.

I signed up for this program next year, where I go to a different school, and learn college courses. Such as I'm going for cosmetology, this means that I will get all my college credits and will get my license without going to college. (It's like a technical school.) Why? Well at first it was because I wanted to do it for me, but my mom says that I'm going to drop out and I can't do it. Now it's more then my wanting to go, it's me wanting to prove them wrong again.

I'm tired of this. I just want my mom and dad to believe in me for once, support me, tell me that I can do anything if I put my mind to it, you know the normal parent stuff. I can't take it anymore. I've put up with this for 15 years. I want to leave. I want to get away, go somewhere. Live with a friend or something. I don't know what to do?

Answer 1

Sorry to say this, but she is not a good mother and she does NOT deserve your love or affection. Get out and move in with someone, anyone but her. You need to steer clear of her and cut all contact with her. Maybe that will make her learn.

Answer 2

I think that maybe you need to sit down with your parents and let them know how you feel, and also one thing you can say to them and actually try it out is tell yourself and them, that from now on what you do is not for their sakes, or to prove anything to them or for them but for yourself, and because of what and who you know you are and can be.

saying that will set you free and help them to realize that you are maturing and that you can and will become a wonderful person regardless of what anyone thinks of you.Not for anyone but for you!

Cherry