I'm tired of people expecting too much from me, why do they care?

Question

Ok. I just finished college. I'm Latin American and live in the U.S. Most Latin Americans in the US don't go to college. So most of the people that know me don't have a college degree. I graduated in Computer Science. And I'm just tired of the questioning of these people around me. Like at church, everybody is there asking me stuff and they have that look in their face in which they think a college degree equals a lottery ticket or something. And right now I'm unemployed, and just feel very frustrated because I know I'm not going to be making a lot of money in the near future. I am afraid those people are going to start making me feel as if my college degree is worthless. They all see it in terms of money. And its not so easy,, right now I'm locked in the place where I am... plus some of those people are even family... so I really can't get away from them. I just wished they weren't all over me. Why do they care? I'm not going to give them any money if ever earned a lot and they ...

Answer 1

FAMILY OFTEN EXPECT THE YOUNGER FAMILY MEMBERS TO EXCEL TO MAKE UP FOR THEIR FAILURES.

Answer 2

You are Latin American with a college degree and you can't see it?  You didn't learn much in that college that you attended.  Stop being so self centered and look at the people that you are referring to.  I'll bet that they never had the opportunity to do what you have.  Opportunities have changed over the years,  Scholarships, financial aid, loans, and outright grants are available today along with affirmative action.  How many of the people you mentioned had that available to them?  Can't you see they are proud to see someone like you (Latin American) to have the chance in life that they didn't.  You say "they have that look in their face in which they think a college degree equals a lottery ticket or something."  News for you, to some of them it does.

I just finished reading General Richardo Sanchez's Book.  Born in the poorest part or Rio Grande City TX.  He became the highest ranking Mexican American in the History of the US Army.  I believe you might learn something of your people if you took the time to read it.  I know what I am trying to tell you is fact, because 45 years ago I married a Mexican American woman.  We went through some rough times because of it.  The opportunities weren't there for one in my position being married to her in those times.  We moved to find work to support ourselves.  That is what you might have to do, as the work won't be coming to you.

You also state "I am afraid those people are going to start making me feel as if my college degree is worthless. They all see it in terms of money. And its not so easy."  Son if you don't pick yourself up and go off and find a job in the profession that you have been trained in.  Your education will be worthless.  Yes life is not easy it never has been, but you have a leg up on most of the people your age.  You are supposed to be an adult.  Stop being so selfish and self centered and grow up.

Answer 3

its just. people always expect so many things. what i would do is tell them the honest truth about how i feel with their reactions to it. Ask why they do that, why do they really expect a lot. Tell them that you're gonna do whatever there is to do, and if you dont end up getting so much, then oh well. its your life and they cant do nothing about it. tell them to stop thinking about YOUR future cause many things can come up. Whether its getting a good carreer, not getting one at all, maybe dieing, maybe getting sick.. etc. Because all these things are possible and they cant keep expecting the best.

Answer 4

I can understand how you feel. I once felt like people should worry more about themselves instead of me. No one is perfect and people should spend time improving their own lives whether financially,relationship-wise,mentally,o... physically. There is something to fix or improve on them rather than speculate about your flaws or your situation, remember YOU are living for you. Sometimes you have to cut people out of your life,whether temporary or permenently. I cut a nuisance out of my life and feel so much better,it was family. Keyword was. Surround yourself with positive supportive people.

Answer 5

Ignore those people and send your resume to My Space if you live in the LA area or are willing to move there. Sometimes it just takes a bit of luck. My stepson moved to Hawaii after college and got a job as a bartender. About 6 months later he met some guy and got a good computer job.

Your friends and family probably wish you well, but don't understand your situation. Be patient. I hope all will be great for you.