I'm trying to find my daughter?

Question

My daughter just turned 19, I have not had any contact with her, her whole life, her mother put her up for adoption with someone else as the father. I have been looking for her since children services took her when she was born, I called for her state records and the most i can do is write a letter and put it in her adoption records and pray she goes into her records to find her real parents. I'm despereatly trying to contact her and i need a way to let her know i'm looking, whether it be posting something online or a television show, i really need some help, can someone please tell me what i can do to get in contact with my daughter?

Answer 1

I know this is not what you want to hear, but here goes...

I am an adult adoptee who was reuinted with my birth mom when I was 19.  Of course the first question I asked her was why?  The second of course was, why had she not tried to look for me?

She told me as a birth mother when she terminated her parental rights she terminated all avenues to keep track of me.  She said she had tried everything short of a PI to find me with no luck.  Finally, she had to deal with the fact that I would have to initiate the search, so she prayed that I had been told that I was adopted (which I had).

I honestly believe that your daughter not only knows that she is adopted, but also is as eager as you to reunite!  It's just something about girls!  We need to know who we are!  I mean really are!!!

It's a lot easier said than done, but write that letter, and just be patient, and most of all pray!!  If it is God's will He will bring you 2 together once again!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

GO GET KNOCKED UP!!!

Answer 3

From all the other questions you've posted or answered, you are not old enough to have a 19 year old child.  Also, you appear to be a woman.

So my question is why do people make up this stuff?

If this were real you could look into adoption registries, but your best bet is the letter in the file.

Also, show some respect for her and her life.  Her "real" parents are the people who picked her up when she cried, who drove her to school, who loved her, fed her and clothed her...who ached when someone hurt her and cheered when she did well.  If this situation existed, you'd be her "biological" parents not her real parents.

Even if this had occurred, and there was a father who was robbed this way (it happens) it does not diminish the importance of her real and forever family.

Answer 4

lots of people hire private investigators and sometimes that works. if you have her social security number that will be a major help in finding her to the P.I.'s

Answer 5

I'm really glad you posted this. It's about time we heard from natural fathers. I would give anything today to find out who my father is, to have someone step forward would be an incredible gift to me.

I don't see why your search can't be approached in the same manner as a birth mother or adoptee.

Register, register, register...get your name out there. There's plenty of websites that will allow you to do this for free. www.adoption.org is just one. Enter in everything you know about her & her birth mother. Write that letter to be placed in her adoption file. Apply for some non identifying info, it should at least give you a general idea of who she was placed with, their occupations etc., Do you know what city she might be in? Try taking out a classified ad on her birthday.. or close to her birthday if you only have a rough idea.

Have you thought about contacting her birthmother? She might already be in reunion, or searching too... 2 heads might work faster than one. Anythings worth a shot.

Hope things work out well for you

Answer 6

This is rather interesting to me because when I was five years old my Mama got pregnant and went to PA to have the baby and give her up for adoption. Well about 11 years ago my half-sister found my Mom and we became long-distance sisters, this was abolished when I lost my Mama 1 1/2 ago as I saw the dollar signs in her eyes.

Two years ago I found my husbands daughter whom he has been paying child support for since 1995, all I did was an on-line learch with her name and I was redirected many times but I found her and her and he have had a relalationship for almost 2 years now, so if there is anything that I might be able to help you with just let me know and I will do my best.

Answer 7

If you re-edit your question and include the state your daughters adoption was finalized in i'll give you some places to start :)

I think the whole "real" not real argument is lame. Pointless actually.

I don't know if you're real or not, if this is a troll or not, but if you are or aren't, the laws stay the same and this wouldn't help you if you're not who you say you are. Here is what I know for PA ( after all, someone from PA may stumble on this thread one day and it could help them too)

Who May Access Information

Citation: Cons. Stat. t*t. 23, § 2905

Information may be accessed by:

The adopted person who is age 18 or older

If the adopted person is under age 18, his or her adoptive parent or legal guardian

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Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation: Cons. Stat. t*t. 23, § 2905

The home study and preplacement report, as required by § 2530, shall be made available to parties to an adoption proceeding only after all identifying names and addresses in the report have been deleted by the court. Upon petition by any person listed above, the court shall release to the adopted person as much information concerning the adopted person’s natural parents as will not endanger the anonymity of the natural parents.

Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation: Cons. Stat. t*t. 23, § 2905

Any person listed above may petition the court to attempt to contact the natural parents, if known, to obtain their consent to release their identity and present place of residence to the adopted person. The court shall ensure that no one but the natural parents are informed of the adopted person’s existence and relationship to them. The petitioner

may also request the agency that placed the adopted person to contact the natural parents. If the court or an agency contacts the natural parents, information relating to both natural parents shall only be disclosed if both natural parents agree to the disclosure. If both of the natural parents are deceased, their identities may be

disclosed. If one parent is deceased, his or her identity may be disclosed. If only one parent agrees to the disclosure, then only the information relating to the consenting parent shall be disclosed. The natural parents may, at the time of the termination of their parental rights or at any time thereafter, place on file a consent form granting permission for the court or the department to disclose any identifying or nonidentifying

information about them, at any time after the adopted person reaches age 18 or, if less than age 18, to his or her adoptive parent or legal guardian.

Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation: Cons. Stat. t*t. 23, § 2905

No disclosure shall be made regarding the adopted person’s original birth certificate unless the disclosure is made pursuant to the provisions of this section.

The natural parents may, at the time of the termination of their parental rights or at any time thereafter, place on file, with the court and with the Department of Health, a consent form granting permission for the court or the department to disclose the information contained in the adopted person’s original birth certificate at any time after the adopted persons reaches age 18 or, if less than age 18, to his or her adoptive parent or legal guardian. If both parents give their consent, the information on the birth certificate may be disclosed. If only one parent gives consent, only the identity of the consenting parent shall be disclosed.

Where the Information Can Be Located

Adoption Medical History Registry, Office of Children, Youth, and Families

Contact:

Jewell McCliment

Adoption Medical History Registry

Hillcrest, Second Floor

PO Box 2675

Harrisburg, PA 17105-2675

[phone]

[phone]

[e-mail]

http://www.adoptpakids.org/paemedicalhis... Lollo

Adoption Medical History Registry

Hillcrest, Second Floor

PO Box 2675

Harrisburg, PA 17105-2675

[phone]

[phone]

[e-mail]

http://www.adoptpakids.org/paemedicalhis...

Groups for Penn.:

For a really great up to date pennsylvania blog read ULB.

    PAFIND - http://groups.yahoo.com/group/PAFind/

    

    Pennsylvania Adoption search and Education - http://members.tripod.com/~rombergers/ma...

  search groups - http://members.tripod.com/rombergers/sup...

    Penn. Geneology look up volunteers - http://www.genlookups.com/pa.htm

    ISRR - http://www.isrr.net

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So it appears legally you have no right to non identifying information. ( so sorry , most states give even THIS much to the surrendering parents )

, what you're going to have to do is get a consent to release your identiyfing information, and probably pay to have that inserted into your daughters adoption file through the state she was adopted through.

contact them ! The addy is above.

Answer 8

idk this is weird and i don't care

Answer 9

First - add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

Check here for information on your state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/

(click on the page marked 'Searchers' down the left hand side)

Check here for search help - and links to search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

All the very best with your search.

Answer 10

Are u a girl or a boy?