I'm trying to help my husband have a relationship with his son but he refuses to accept my advice?

Question

My husband will pick on and irritate our son until he lashes out with frustration and then my husband will yell at him because of his "bad behavior" Or in some instances when our son has been misbehaving my husband takes it way to far with belittling comments, calling him certain names. If I say anything my husband just attacks me and says my methods aren't correct. I need to do something to make him understand he has to stop bulling his son.

Answer 1

Well Honey You need to make him stop! You are the Mother and the only one that could protect your son is YOU!

Your son will definitely go the a wrong way if that continues happening, you didn't mention how old your son is, but  that does not matter when it comes to insulting a minor, it could be fatal!

And for your son's sake have a serious divorce threatening chat with ur husband!  

Answer 2

Put your foot down!!! Your husband needs parenting classes and you need more self-esteem and strength to stand up for your child. I would also suggest marriage counseling too. Sound like your husband has anger issues.

If you love both your men try to find a way. It is your resposibility to save and protect  your son he is only a child and needs mom to protect him. BTW  your husband is immature and needs to grow up himself!!!  

Answer 3

Thats very damaging for all of you. Perhaps you would ALL benefit from parenting classes (that way, if you go too,  he doesn't feel that he is 'wrong' which probably wouldn't help). Try talking to your doctor or health visitor  for some advice.

In the short term there is an excellent book on parenting call 'Raising Boys' by Steve Biddolph just to get you started. But any relationship has to be based on respect and if he isn't showing your son how  to respect then that will only come back to all of you when your son is older. (ie if your son learns how to be polite and thoughtful and not get cross and angry at the smallest thing - if he learns how to discuss problems rather than resort to yelling, he is far more likely to grow into a well balanced and kindly teenager rather than a confused and angry one).

Answer 4

Record him on a video cam or a audio recording.  Let him relax first and maybe before bed, let him know what you did and let him know that that's what he sounds like and it's NOT a good thing.  Sometimes ppl just need a really good look in the mirror and they see the full picture.  

Answer 5

THATS CHILD ABUSE  VERBAL HOPE HE KNOWS THAT  U SHOULD GET HIM TO STOP IF HE DOESNT GET THE COPS INVOLVED..

Answer 6

Your husband sounds like a complete a$$hole. Your sons gonna grow up with some serious issues against him and most probably you if you dont stop this.