I'm unhappy with my life...what should I do?

Question

Three months ago I relocated to a different city two hours away for a job offer with better pay and benefits. I am kinda starting over here. I hate my new job and don't have many friends here. I have been considering moving back to where I came from because I might have a job opportunity there in a few months, my best friend lives there, and I may try to rekindle things with my ex. Or do I need to be more patient and stay here and hope that things eventually get better? Am I just being impatient or thinking about the past too much?

Answer 1

It's really difficult sometimes to let go of your past because it's familiar. When you change your surroundings (job, home, friends, lifestyle) it's bound to be distressing at first. You have only been in the new city for three months. Try staying there for at least a year. If you hate your new job, you may want to think about getting a different one.

Cities offer many more employment opportunities than towns or suburban areas. You also may want to consider looking into a local community college or other institution for either upgrading your current skills, or learning new skills for a different kind of job. There are many possibilities for you. Any college campus worth it's weight will provide you all the information you need to get started.

Good places to find and make friends are coffee shops, gyms, libraries, recreational centers (swimming, basketball, etc), or some kind of outdoor activity that you enjoy (hiking, mountain biking riding, windsurfing, skateboarding, etc).

Are you being impatient, maybe. Thinking about the past too much? Definitely. At least give it a try to stay. If you still feel the same way after a year, then by all means, go back. Some people do get homesick and there's nothing wrong with that, either. Hope this helps. Best to you.

Answer 2

Forget about the past and focus on the future.  Get a nice job and meet new people.  Just be patient and stay there.  

Answer 3

I would say stick it out.  Why did you take the new job? Did you not know you would hate it?  

It sounds like you weren't happy with your situation before, so I don't think going back to it would help, might just make it worse, thinking "Wow, I left this once, and I've come back to it, what was I thinking!"  

Consider asking a doctor if you might be clinically depressed--it's not just a state of mind sometimes, it can be a real medical condition.

Answer 4

give it time and see if it changes ,, ya never know

Answer 5

change is always hard. i say you just stick it out.. go to a starbucks..read a book? bring out your laptop.. just be open to new things. change is hard, but change is good.

and ex's are ex's for a reason..

Answer 6

I think what you should do is be more patient, just live for awhile with that new condition and try to adapt with the environment such as friends and probably new house. Everybody will do the same things as you do if they move to a new place without knowing anybody there. Try to adapt, until you feel it is unadaptable. Don't force your self, be happy =).