I'm very lost on my feelings and need some help?

Question

I have a friend who just broke up with his girlfriend and he's now interested in someone a state away. He really likes her, and I've really liked him since I met him. So much that I want him to be happy over my selfish need to have him myself. I was helping him with her, and he hasn't asked her out yet, but he asked me the other day "Hypotepical question... I am just asking this out of... wonder about myself... I am looking for an unbiased answer. I do not plan to go anywhere with this or anything like that ... Not trying to scare you away basically... Would YOU date me?" now I realize this is most likely ACTUALLY a hypotehetical since the way he said it, but when he asked, it made me so happy, and of course I said yes. I asked him the same, and he said yes. We have quite a close friendship, and I'm liking him more and more everyday. I mean I know now that there is at least a small chance one day, but right now..after the events, and my own loneliness after breaking up with someone if I should even say anything right now, or just wait.. I don't want to be selfish, or confuse him more. It's tearing me up though. :c

Answer 1

No pain no gain! Tell him exactly how you feel and give it a short.Things may turn out right but you'll never know if you don't try.

Answer 2

Don't let it tear you up. It sounds like he does have feelings for you, but I think the best approach, since he seems to be interested in someone even though they're in a different state, is to move slowly. Don't pressure one another into dating immediately. Stay good friends, and if it does start to become heart breaking, tell him your feelings and ask him whether or not he wants to be with you. Hopefully things move naturally for you two :-) good luck.