I'm worried about my sister ?

Question

so i've always had problems with my dad .. he ALWAYS yells at me and my mom and the only time he is happy is when he is at work or talking about work , last night they had this big fight and my little sister( 11) came into my room cause she was scared and she hates that they fight , and its never my mom faults he always starts to yell at her .. so me and my sister went for a walk to think and talk , and we both can't stand the way my dad treats everyone , he doesnt ususally yell at my sister but she see's how he treats my mother and i ..

and i'm scared that when i go to highschool ( im 14 ) i wont be home as much as before and im scared for my little sister getting scared cause i'm the only one she talks to ,

WHAT DO I DO ?!

Answer 1

Your mother doesn't have to yell and fight with your father. I grew up in the same kind of family and know how you feel. I finally realized that

my mom loved the fighting and yelling.

Both you and your sister need to bond together over this and help each other through it. You need to talk to a counselor at

school to find out how to handle this problem.

Good luck, Hon.

Answer 2

wow i truely feel bad for you and your sister because to be honest there isnt much you can do...you need the have a talk with your mom about the whole situation and let her know how its affecting your lil sis...its up to your mom to love and protect your children...its up to her to take a stand and do something about it...unfortunantly hes the parent and your the child so you dont have much say...i suggest talk to your mom...

Answer 3

You need to talk to someone at your school.  They can help.  Maybe it's not safe for your dad to be around you guys.  Going on a walk was a good idea.  If you can tell that your dad is about to flip soon, take your sister on a walk with you.  Talk about how you guys feel.  When you go to high school, talk to your counselor there.  Have your sister talk to somebody at her school too.  Also, if you think you can, try to talk to your mom because she won't like the way that your dad treats her either. Maybe you guys could go to family counseling if you can get your dad to agree to it.  It sounds like he's the one that definitely needs help.

Answer 4

You should be able to get advise at school from the counselor all schools have one of some sort tell her how you feel about your Dad but dont tell her they fight in front of you or your sister because then social services will get involved and your family is better together than apart you have to use caution with these things be smart or maybe if you talk to your Mom and be honest with her bring your sis into the picture with your mom maybe your mom can talk to your Dad when he is less aggrevated and they can take there talks outside its good for you to take your sis for a walk when they fight your Dad will remeber that and maybe that will help ? I feel for you I wish you luck! (my simpathy goes out to you and your sister)

Answer 5

When I was liveing at home I had an abusive step-mom and she was exactly like that. She yelled all of the time, and when I was in high school I feared the end of every day, because I knew exacly what I was going home to.(Dr.Jeckel and Mr.Hyde) I eventually became a run-away. THIS IS NOT THE ANWER-It was the most difficult thing I ever went through. She would also hit us =a lot .I always took all of the c**p my mom threw at me because I didn't want my little sister  getting hit on.(or yelled at) For the most part it worked. When I left home for some reason she became a different person.In my case I was the step child-which makes it elevate ten times when your liveing with someone who's bi-polar. She wanted the man ,but not the package-ya know. If I had to go back in time I would have talked to my counsler at school. If I would have done that then mabie I wouldn't have been a runaway. Your dad needs anger management classes. The whole family needs to go talk to a family counsler. Being afraid of a parent all of the time, and scared your dad might flip out is not cool-It's called mental abuse, and I suggest you talk to a counsler at school before it gets worse with your sister.They will talk to your parents -However, you don't have to be afraid -in your situation they'll know exactly what to do.Your parents may not realize how much they are stressing you and your sister out. If it's brought to their attention by someone with athority it could cool their jets for good. Your dad can't hurt you for talking to a councler -if he does he can get into trouble.Don't be scared -Just do it.Good-Luck.