I'm worried about my son?

Question

In early school life he was very out going and had riend come over and they'd play around the house, then he went to high school and after a few years the friends stop coming he stopped agoing out and he because very 'Private'.

There are small things that i have noticed about him

1. He shaves his legs, any hair on his face is shaved off quick. and i think he stighly plucks his eye brows

2. While cleaning his home i have picked up a pair of his sisters bra and pants that he stuffed under the pillow

3. make up products i spotted in his drawer

I took away the underwear, so i would like to knowwhat is going on with my son and how do i get him to open up?

Answer 1

he may be bisexual (it could be just a phase) or maybe he's just experimenting. he may be trying a thing called "emo" where you act all deep and mysterious. really its just g*y goth. but he's probably just experimenting. you should confront him. he might want to talk. high school kids are weird, and sometimes they just want to fit in ya know? if so, maybe he feels like this is the only way. or maybe he truly is a bisexual. whatever it is, in high school, no phases or trends are necessarily permanent. just try to be understanding and open. let him talk and don't be judgemental. if something he's doing disturbs you, tell him you don't like it and hope its just a phase, but you love him and want him to be happy. explain that fitting in and being cool or changing your personality for others is stupid and hurtful to himself. tell him he's great, and everyone loves him. im sure he is!

Answer 2

you have a right to worry but him he might be going through summet bad at school or just trying out whats its like to be a girl im sure h**l grow out of it try and ask him say stuff like how *** ya shaved ya legs or plukked ya brows and he might feel as though he wants to talk to you cause ya will understand

Answer 3

The most important thing a parent can be is accepting of their children. The whole world is there to judge and criticise and a parent should not do this, but rather be there for their children. If his actions aren't hurting anyone, just make him feel comfortable with who he is, in whatever way you think fit. Once you rid him of his personal shame, you'll watch him change for the better in many ways.

Answer 4

Give the lad his nickers back, you big bully.

Answer 5

Looks like he is g*y or likes dressing up as a women x

Answer 6

talk to him and let him know that u noe about him.see wat he says. h**l open up to u

Answer 7

I would sit down with him and ask him if he is confused or needs to talk with someone about his sexual identity ,seems as though he may feel like he's a girl trapped in a boys body.Let him know that you  love him and are there for him and you aren't trying to judge him,you just want the best for him .

Talking to a counselor or therapist may help him sort out his feelings ,hopefully he will start to feel he no longer has to hide his true feelings and can open up and  accept and feel good about who he is.Wishing you and your family well.

Answer 8

honey it sounds like he may be exploring his gender identity. if you do choose to talk to him please be very open minded and thoughtful of his feelings as he is likely feeling pretty conflicted and confused right about now.me, i would just love him and be supportive until he is ready to talk and as long as long as you aren't seeing any self destructive or depressive behavior their isn't anything to worry about really. maybe do a little research on gender identity and gender expression and see if this is something you can accept. if it is drop a few hints now and then that you are cool with the idea of transgendered people and maybe he will open up to you. oh yeah, you didn't mess up or fail as a parent some people are just born feeling differently about their gender or gender expression. so good luck to you and your child. do me a favor right now, go give him a hug and tell him you love him

Answer 9

I think... he is a bisexual, a person who likes both s*x's

I think his friends stopped hanging around with him cause of this weird behaviour

Answer 10

Hello Jan W

I was married to someone who had the same addiction for 15 years and never knew it until after we were divorced.

He was a Cross Dresser.  He liked to dress up in womans' clothing and go out and pretend to be a woman.

It took me years of therapy to get over this.  I finally confronted him and he told me very directly and to the point that he enjoyed it.

How I never knew for 15 years is beyond me.  But now, 22 years later, my advise would be say nothing, if he wanted you to know he would tell you.

He is an adult.  I am guessing he does not live in your home.  Stop cleaning up his house so that you don't become upset when you find panties and bras and makeup.

Let him live his life.  You gave him life, but you can't live it for him.

Answer 11

Let him talk when he is ready when he is ready to open up he will. I would not take anything away from him maybe he is taking hers, because he is to shy to go get his own.

He might be g*y or maybe he has a fetish hard telling.

Answer 12

Look up the facts on cross-dressing, transexual, and g*y. All three are very different. See if you see any other signs that lean towards one way or the other. Find out the facts first, to understand your son more, before confronting him about what's going on.

Answer 13

He's a cross dresser