I'm worried about the first time I have s*x!?

Question

Is it really sore the first time, do you bleed massively and what are the best tips to minimise pain and maximise pleasure for first timers?

thaanks :D

Answer 1

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Answer 2

The chances of bleeding arn't all that much.

Answer 3

use tampons instead of pads when you get your period.  that might break your hymen (that is the painful part of first timers when it comes to girls) if you can achieve that than there should be no pain and bleeding.  Also s*x can be uncomfortable for first times just because it is an awkward situation.  don't think too much of it...just relax, and you should be fine.  it is the worry warts that have awful experiences.

Answer 4

yeh for a girl it hurts a bit it just means how tight you are the more tighter you are the more pain if you dont want it to hurt as much get on top of him and ride him there will be less friction

Answer 5

um...you sound like your not ready! how old are you? but to answer your question no its not very sore the first time, some people bleed but not a lot!

Answer 6

It hurts a bit, yeah... But it isn't like he is taking a knife to you...

Some women hurt more than other... Some women don't really hurt at all...

I hurt for a few seconds then it went away.

Honey, women don't really get in to s*x until we are FULLY DEVELOPED... Meaning at approximately the age of 22 or 23.

Before that, you may have an o****m, but it is NOTHING like the FULL BODY experience you get when you are fully physically mature.

Also... Only about 10 percent of women have an o****m through penetration alone.

THE REST OF US ONLY get off through direct stimulation of the clitoris...

Even then, women are MENTAL creatures and if we are not mentally in to the experience... You can work and work and work at it and NOTHING will happen...

You will be so nervous your first time that I DOUBT you will get off.

The best thing you can do is keep a purse full of condoms and BUY A SMALL BOTTLE OF LUBE!!!!

Just go to Walgreens or Target and buy a bottle of lube...

It is doubtful that you will produce enough lube yourself to make the experience pleasurable so PLEASE... Just buy a bottle of lube...

That is the #1 way to make the experience not suck.

Answer 7

weird as this might sound...communication. Its not akward and it really helps maximize pleasure! Everyone is different though...i wasnt sore and it felt great for me the first time...but my friend cried like the whole time because it hurt her so much. my best piece of advice is to talk to you partner before and during.

Answer 8

um....lets see when i first had s*x it didn't really hurt. it hurt for like three seconds and than tleasure came. and i didn't really bleed. i think it just depends on the person. you will proribly only feel pain for a copule seconds and than its over. don worry it will be great just be careful. best of luck

Answer 9

No at most you will have a little bit of bleeding but not much, you hurt a bit the next day but not too much. Go slow and be patient after awhile it's really pleasurable. After the first time it doesn't hurt, unless you wait weeks after.

The best advice I can give you is take your time. Don't be nervous and have fun. Make sure to keep your communication going in the beginning with your guy.

Make sure you use protection, if you hear a snapping noise make sure the guy pulls out RIGHT AWAY that means your protection broke. It doesn't happen often just make sure you listen for it and you'll be fine.

If it hurts to much stop and use lubrication. I wouldn't start with it cause it can cause the guy's p***s to slip right in and cause massive pain for you for your first time well more of a stinging pain.

Relax and have fun!

Answer 10

Everyone is different. Not all people feel pain and bleed. If you do bleed its not so much. Relax and take things slowly and you will be fine. Wear protection to. How old are you? Maybe you should wait? Well if your ready and the person you are having s*x with is special just use protection, be careful. Good luck!

Answer 11

the only pleasure you will get is having done it..I agree that you sound too immature and too eager 2 please the poor wee chap.There is a possibility you will need a blood transfusion and perhaps corrective surgery if you do it wrong!!

Answer 12

it will only hurt if your not relaxed

so dont worry about it, and there is hardly any blood

Answer 13

Every one is different for the pain level. you may bleed a bit but no massively. just make sure you don't tense up it will hurt worse and make sure you are really wet.

if your so worried about it ma-by your not ready?  

Answer 14

No not alot of bleeding. go slow and commuicate your wants N' needs.

Answer 15

i kno your worried..i was too.i didnt bleed tho.(yea me!) but i did hurt all you can do it tell him to go slow. all you need to kno is if your ready your ready.dont let anyone tell you your not.i hope it turns out well for you and your doing it for the right reasons.p.s. no lube.just natural lol...and make sure your on birth control or usung a condom.hope i helped!

Answer 16

No you dont bleed that much just take it slowly and use lots of lube!

you will be fine but make sure you can communicate while its happening so he will know when to slow down and when your hurting. :) have fun!

Answer 17

Yes it will hurt the 1st time! There wont be much pleasure at first and probably not at all. If you do it with someone you love that makes it better. If you think you love him don't do it. Yes you will bleed a little (nothing like your monthly though)!

Answer 18

have s*x with a guy who has a small d**k he wont make you hurt as much  

Answer 19

you do it regularly, like exercise

Answer 20

Well it depends on who you're having it with. It doesn't hurt that much, if it does then try to take it slow.

Answer 21

It honestly only hurts because you are focusing on it.  If you try to get your mind off of it, then it should only hurt a little.  Putting so much emphasize on it only tenses your muscles and that is why it hurts so much.  If you are relaxed, your muscles will also be relaxed.

Answer 22

Do not do it. Wait till your 21 years old.

Answer 23

you sound like you're not ready to have s*x .

Answer 24

Depends on the person, some people bleed some dont. some are sore some are not. I would just be gentle bout it and tell him to go slow.