I'm worried my overweight boyfriend is slowely killing himself?

Question

He is about 6'1'' or maybe an inch taller and I think he weighs 300 or more. He has VERY lean legs and arms.. just one big round belly. I'm eating good and working out, trying to get in shape for the Air Force or Air National Guard. His parents are very concerned for his health as some of our friends are.

I sometimes get him to eat smaller meals 4 or 5 times a day and I know he'll always eat more than me but sheesh. I'm guessing he eats anywhere from 3,000 calories + on a good day. I try and motivate him to go for walks but unless he goes with me he won't go. And his diet is a mess. He will eat healthy food but he eats lots of bad food on top of it. The biggest problem is his portion contol. He will eat LARGE meals and snacks and watch tv, go to class and sit on the computer all day.

He knows that this could lead to diabetes and he is very intelligent, he just isn't motivated. I think he feels bad about the way he looks. I love him and I always will no matter how fat he gets but I want him to FEEL good and confident. He needs to see why I think he's so attractive. I just don't want him to suffer health problems because of this. How can I get him to eat better and be more active??

Answer 1

The answer to your original statement is: Yes, yes he is.  He will not change unless he wants to change.

Answer 2

Sadly the truth of the matter is you can't make someone change unless THEY are willing to. You can try talking to him with your concerns in a light and frank manner and above all just tell him how much you really love him and how you are worried about him for your future together.

Maybe you can suggest doing things with him together that is more pyschically active and if you get out more he wont have as much time to eat and plus you'll be moving. Have him start a hobby or something as well. Whether he changes or not, I think it's great you are by his side. That's true love and continue to support him. All I can say is just be there for him.

Good luck. :)

Answer 3

Good on you that you care that much:but I am afraid he does not care at all:otherwise he would change his life style.

You cannot force him to change:he must be willing to change.

Would have some serious talks with him though:risk of getting diabetes,heart attacks,high blood pressure etc.

If he is that intelligent,he should be able to listen to reason.

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