I'v suddenly gained respect from my "friend"...?

Question

So, before she would ask me for things and i would go out of my way and i was almost becoming a pushover doormat and i could tell she didnt respect me...So last week she asked me again for money and i told her i didnt have it and i made it clear to her...now it seems shes kinda afraid of me..why is this?

Answer 1

She is a user.  I have a friend like this. Don't let it start and you don't have to worry about it.

She was my good friend because I was her ride.  No one wanted her to go and I took up for her, and told them they shouldnt let her feel left out.

She ignored me the whole weekend of our trip.

And was my bestest friend on the ride home.

See my last question about her.

Get away and find real friends, you are not that desperate for friends are you?

Answer 2

She's probably trying the guilt trip now. Acting afraid so you'll feel sorry. The one girl that said someone was friends with her because she was her ride.. I know exactly how you feel, I have some friends who I think are only friends with me because I take them places. People use you. It happens. I'm not saying don't be friends with her anymore, I'm saying don't keep giving her stuff. See if she stays friends with you anyway. She's not a true friend if she quits talking to you because you quit giving her money and stuff. Hope this helps ^_^

Answer 3

I think that you did a great thing. You let her know that you are NOT someone who is going to take her rudeness. I think she is appearing "afraid" because all this time she was used to bullying you and treating you like a servant, and when you stepped up to her, she was confused. Normally she was in charge. Right? But now that you've showed her who's boss, look back and think : Was she really being a friend to me? Or was she just using me?

I'm sure that the answer will come to you soon enough. Good Luck :)