I've been crying myself to sleep lately because of my mom...?

Question

Whenever my boyfriend comes to my house, my mom and my boyfriend are constantly flirting with each other. My boyfriend always hugs my mom goodbye but not me. Whenever I have a boyfriend, my mom always acts all flirty around him and she'll do that until my boyfriend starts to flirt with her!! It's like she hates me and can't see me happy!!! Yesterday, my boyfriend and I were watching tv in the living room and just as we were gonna kiss, my mom walks in wearing this really low cut top and bends down right in front of my boyfriend acting like she's picking something up but she was really trying to make my boyfriend look at her b***s! My mom is such a sl ut!!

I've talked to her plenty of times asking why she always flirts with my boyfriend and why she can't see me happy but my mom acts like she doesn't know what I'm talking about! I've told my step dad and even he tried to talk to my mom but it still didn't work.

Lately, I've been crying myself to sleep because of my mom. What do I do??????

Answer 1

thats messed up... dont bring ur boy friends home anymore haha but i love that you told him off xD

Answer 2

Sit down with your mom and stepfather.

Tell them:

"Mom, I am having a real problem with you whenever I bring guys around.  You constantly flirt with them.  I am worried about the two of you's relationship as well as my own.  I am afraid that you two are on the verge of splitting up and I don't  know if you [step] even know it.   I feel that I cannot bring guys over here anymore.  This does not mean that I won't be seeing guys, I will, just that we won't be here in the safety of my own house.   I won't be seeing you guys as much, and won't be able to benefit from your advice.

The only way I see around this is to go to family counseling together.  We are dysfunctional.   I feel like a pimp for my mom, and a traitor to you [step].  We need help if we are to survive as a family"

That is what you do!

Answer 3

I have a mom that slept with two of my sisters boyfriends!  Not to scare you - my mom was nuts!   Just remember that this is her problem, that some kind of insecurity has made her do this and it is not to hurt you.    If you have already tried talking to her just tell your boyfriends what she has done in the past and that you would appreciate them NOT hugging her and flirting back.  That may help some.  Also your mom needs counseling but I don't know how you can get her into it!

Answer 4

Your mother is sick. How old is your bf?

Answer 5

grl that must hurt! hope u wont mind me saying this but that is very S****y of ur mom to do that.  Try hangin out places where ur mom isnt around like his house or the movies or the mall.  just keep the two apart. feel better soon!

Answer 6

Wow, that is a really tough situation to deal with. I know that if I were in your shoes I would be really pissed too. Maybe you should sit down and talk with her but be firm. Tell her that you would feel more comfortable if she wore less revealing clothing and not try to seduce your boyfriend or you will go to the cops (if he is underage) Let her know that you are serious.

Answer 7

get rid of him

Answer 8

when she does it again stand up and yell at her to stop flirting with him.But the nice way is tell her to put decent clothes on.Talk to her ask her why she puts clothes like that on in front of him all the time.

Answer 9

omg thats a tough one im not surprised about the whole pretending she has no clue bit manipulative conniving mothers are good at that and they tend to make u out as the one fresh out of the loony bin im pretty sure talking isn’t going to work, btw doesn’t ur step dad ever get pissed off at her for throwing herself at another guy, anyway as I was saying talking to her probly wont work if this bothers you and you feel as if tho ther isn’t much left for you to do just kinda try staying away from her don’t ask him to come over to yours go to his house or stay out go to a park, or the mall or a friends, only ask him to come over when your mom isn’t there or when you know shel be out late so you can get him in and out without the two making any sort of contact also hang out wher u know shes unlikely to go eg if she hates going into the back yard chill out there, all in all try as hard as u can to avoid her, and maybe start staying out late, hardly ever be at home and when she gets all bothered over this which she will make her a deal, say ul spend more time at home if she promises to not enter the room u and ur bf are in or something like that

Hope this helps tc

Answer 10

go over to the bow friends house

Answer 11

oh my gosh. i would be pissed if my mother did that.

just stop bringing boyfriends over to the house i guess.

i can't think of any other solutions. sorry!

good luck though.

:/

Answer 12

just dont bring your boyfriend to the house anymore.

Answer 13

mom is gross. sorry. but why havent u talked2 him? he should know how u feel & if he doesnt change his side, dump him. if he will have s*x w-ur mom, who wont he have s*x with? u deservea guy who only wants u.

Answer 14

This is tough.

Is you're boy friend older then you? is you're mom young?

i don't know what to tell you, one of my friends mom was like this and wouldn't listen when people told her differently. My friend wouldn't bring her boy friend to her house until they were serious, then she said it was a test "if they don't flirt with my mom there a keeper!"

Oh and another friends mom was single so when she brought a date over my friend would dress like a sl ut and kinda show her mom how it felt.

Sorry that's not great advice, just keep calling her out for it, maybe one day she'll have an "ah ha" moment. the only thing is you'll know who you're true boy friends are.

Edit: i think you were smart to send him that text, its all true.

Answer 15

cuss ur mom out lol jk naww but dont tell her when u have bf's just tell ur stepdad instead tell him to keep it hush hush tho.

if my mom did that i would ask if she could leave! but

juss try those steps tell her how miserble she's makin ur life

Answer 16

wow, i would be so pissed if i were you.

all i can say is avoid your mom when your boyfriend comes over.

:/

Answer 17

i suggest break up with your bf

and dont bring your next bf to your house

your mom is sick .

dont worry their are plenty of fish in the sea.

Answer 18

daaam thats sad.....you did good!!! you told him and sweetie maybe they had a little somethin somethin on the side?

and its not your faultt ok so try not to  stress.....

Answer 19

I would not bring your bf around ur mom until you have been together for awhile. Ur mom just wants attention & feels that is the only way to get it. If your mom asks questions, then tell her it is 2 embarresing for you. good luck.

Answer 20

Well, i wouldn't exactly go to the cops! Like mentioned above. That's a little extreme. My mom has done similar things.. she has a boob job & likes to show them off. This includes low-cut tops, tank tops..etc. If i bring my friends over (& they're guys) she likes to be "the hott mom." She calls herself a M.I.L.F! And she's PROUD of it. It's disgusting. I love her as my mom, but i hate it when she tries to act like she's 21 again. Anyways, maybe your mom is crying for attention- perhaps, it's not intentional (her flirting) she just wants to make sure she's still GOT IT. If your boyfriend flirts back, then it makes her feel better about herself- knowing that she is still attractive and s**y. Don't let it get to you so much - talk to your boyfriend first. Let him know exactly how you feel. Ask him do you want to date me or my mom? Let him know the flirting is wierd & unacceptable behavior on his part. It's gross, immature, and it's offensive to you. Tell him to grow up, and figure out what and who he really wants in life. Then have a serious talk with your mom, and let her know everything. I think she just needs a little extra attention from her husband! Don't let this get to you. You're better than that, keep a positve attitude. Figure out what you're boyfriend wants, and whether or not he can be loyal to only you & see if your mom is willing to change her ways. Just communicate. I hope this helps! Good Luck :)

P.S. Try spending time with your boyfriend more [outside of the house]. Do one-on-one activities together & have that "alone" time. This makes the relationship better & stronger.

Answer 21

I don't know, sweetie.  I guess stop bringing boyfriends over.  And if your mom asks why your hanging out at their house more then just tell her why, politely.

Answer 22

ah... I dont know but ur bf is so lucky. I wonder what does he take to get u and everything. I can only dream (btw, if ur pic is u, then i would say that ur very very pretty)

just talk to ur mom.

Answer 23

Do not talk to your mom.If she really loves you she would not do that

Answer 24

sounds like u need to get ur mom a boyfriend.

Answer 25

That isn't cool.  You need to go talk to somebody about this.  Maybe a therapist.  I wouldn't be so attacking on your boyfriend yet, this is your mom.  Do you ever see your dad?