I've been friends with this girl since I was born, but I really don't like who she is anymore....?

Question

My mum met her mum when they were expecting us, and then ever since we were born I've sorta been forced to like her. I had to go round to her house loads, and I can remember even then not really wanting to go.

In primary 3 I moved away to another school and our friendship became one of those "special uber best friends" ones, even though I didn't feel the same. Now, she treats me like I'm an idiot, laughs at me, moans if I as much as mention another friend although she constantly goes on about how her friends are so good.

I really just don't like who she is, she's a really girly girl and theres nothing wrong with that, but I'm just so different from her. And yes, I don't want everyone to be the same as me but I just cannot stand her.

Anyway, Im in academy now and she's moving to my school. She thinks we're going to hang about all the time, but I know my friends will hate her and I don't want to get seperated from them as they are my real friends.

People are probably gonna say "oh well try and see if you can be friends, tell her and she'll change" but honestly I really DO NOT want to be her friend. I'm asking what to do to get rid of her, not how to sort our friendship.

Answer 1

I wouldn't worry too much. If you guys are as different as you say you are she won't "fit in" anyway. She may want to hang out until she finds friends she can relate with. Just don't be nasty to her when she gets there because then you look like the bad guy. She will be in your territory now and you have the upper hand but be the bigger person. Not only will she make new friends but she will not be able to complain to both your Moms about you.

Answer 2

just keep making plans around her and tell her you have new friends your happy with and she wouldnt fit in.

Answer 3

don't repsond to her calls or invites. ignore her if she comes to your house uninvited.

Answer 4

Well, you are not kids anymore. People change and drift apart. I wouldn't be rude to her. Introduce her to some kids in your school since she will be new, and continue on with your own friends. You can do that without being rude. She will make her own set of friends and it ll all work out.

Answer 5

It sounds like you have exactly the same problem as me. It's hard though because any advice you probably would get was tell her how you really feel, and then she will know that you don't want to be with her as much as she wants to be with you. When she moves to the same academy as you, you should try and make it obvious that you and you're real friends have a closer and more genuine bond then you and the girl you don't really like. This might make her realise that you seem a lot happier with the group you already have.