I've been invited to a meal... i'm a really fussy eater... i don't know how to politely decline any food?

Question

i dont want to be rude whatsoever because i really like the guy taking me!

Answer 1

Man...can I relate. Everytime I go to Germany with my hubby, everynight is booked at someones house to eat. And I rarely like whats offered. They all know Im picky.....he warns them, but I am the minority. So they cook what they like, and I sit awkwardly. I usually say Im not hungry, even though Im usually famished....and the hosts are always so busy catching up with my husband that they dont notice.

Same thing here in the states.....I never want to decline food either, but if Im not going to eat it....I just be honest here and say " Im not hungry". LOL, so much for honesty.

And since you like the guy, tell him you are picky. Let him know in advance.

I gotta say, since I was honest with my hubby, I always know when we are going to eat at his sisters house, she actually goes the long distance, and makes food I enjoy. And in return, I rave over how good it is. His mom, on the other hand.....I wont go there.

It really sucks being picky. I know all to well. I cringe everytime Im invited to eat somewhere.

Answer 2

If you really like him, don't you think he should know about your eating habits?

Answer 3

jst say ur full up

Answer 4

How about just being honest and when offered, say "no thank you".

Answer 5

Just tell him the truth. Tell him you're fussy. He'll laugh it off I'm sure. Who knows, maybe he's fussy too! It's better than to decline the date, or to go, and find out that you don't like what's on the menu!!!

Have a great time!!

Answer 6

just tell him you have some food allergies so to be safe you need to pick the location together.

Answer 7

Go back to his house after he picks you up.   Cause you just rented a video and want to see...   Take pop corn and other junk food along with putting your nighty in your purse.  If you never get to a resturaunt then you do not have to eat...

Besides you really really like him..    Stop the hunt for a man --he is all yours...

Answer 8

This is always a rough one.  I too have been to dinner parties, BBQ's and what-nots and a lot of the foods served I won't eat due to diet and health reasons.  

If it is a "serve yourself" deal...then you eat what you like. If it is served to you, then eat what you like and don't eat what you don't like.

If it is made to your order, then you don't have any issues.  In some cultures, it is disrespectful not to eat their food and insulting, but it doesn't sound that way in your case.

Why are you a fussy eater?  Health, diet, picky?  It is alright to be honest with the host/hostess.  Eat something before going so that you will be semi-full before you go to your meal and that way won't get 2nd's or 3rds thrown at you.

Answer 9

OK, so you are "fussy" but I am sure you are also planning on being a very polite fussy eater.  To decline something just say no thank you and if pressed for a reason state that you are full/have an allergy/ that it is not allowed on your diet.  Smile sweetly and say that it looks delicious and eat something that you can deal with.

Answer 10

get the relationship off to a good start and tell him the truth; otherwise he might mistake your "fussiness" for something else i.e. you dont like him.  suggest another activity or cook at home for him.

Answer 11

you don't say whether the meal is in a restaurant or at someone's home. It's easy in a restaurant, as you can order what you want.  But it's a bit trickier in someone's home.   If food is passed around a table just take a very small portion and try to finish it.  If the food is going to be plated prior to serving it to you, it might be possible to let the server know that you won't be able to eat much as you "have allergies" or "you've had a bit of an upset stomach today".  That's about all you can do and still save face........

Answer 12

I was the WORST eater when I was growing up...NO meat, NO vegtables.  Anything sweet and fatty i would eat....I am still skinny though.  lol

When I got older I tried new things and I got over it.

Just tell him that you are picky.  If he likes you he wont care.  My boyfriend didn't.

Hope I helped

Answer 13

If he is cooking, just ask him what he is making for dinner, if it is a dinner party, just ask what they are serving before you go