I've been raped 3 times?

Question

I cry evey night and think about the things that happened 2 me.I've ran away from home 5 times and was raped 3.That was 1 year ago and I have not got over it yet. I now have a daughter by one of my attackers. I dont know what to do I've talk to several counselors but it has not done good 4 me what should I do now

Answer 1

For one thing don't run away from home a 6th time, since nothing has done any good, I really don't know what to tell you but try to get on with your life and raise that little girl keeping in mind that it is not her fault. I wish there was more that I could do or say.

Answer 2

No one deserves to be mistreated or raped even 1 time, much less 3.  I cannot even imagine what you've been through and what you have to cope with every single day of your life.

With that said though, I can't help but ask - what kind of lifestyle do you have that would bring you to this?  Women who are raped once or twice are very alert and suspecting, if not even a bit paranoid.  Many are afraid of leaving their house, especially after dark.  They avoid strangers and new places.  Pardon me for generalizing, but many women who are taken advantage of more than that are either in living conditions that they can't get away from (such as being abused by a family member who threatens them) or are engaged in a lifestyle that entices maltreatment.  Some abuse illicit substances, some get in with the wrong crowd or frequent dangerous areas of town.

Hopefully none of that applies to you, and I hope you get help in dealing with all you've been through, but if you ARE putting yourself in situations that lead to this abuse, I'm hoping you will change these tendencies.  Don't run away anymore, but if you have to, then at least find somewhere safe to go - if not for you, then at least look after yourself for your girl.

Answer 3

well counselors are not gonna help if you don't feel comfortable around them so if you cant find a great counselor that you trust and feel comfortable around maybe you can find a great close friend or family member to talk to. also closure is one way to really deal, have theses attackers been convicted and sentenced because if not you really need to make an effort to do all you can to convict them. i know this sounds ugly but do you think that because you have a child with one of your rapest its a constant reminder and brings pain to you.  its not the childs fault she/he should not be blamed maybe untill you can get your self situated you child can stay with a family member or friend. i recommend finding a great therapist and possibly even begining medication for depression i know is has to be hard but do all you can to be strong. see if there is a local group you can join that has women that have had the same thing happen to them. if you wanna talk im a great listener my email address is [e-mail]