I've changed my mind about wanting to be in the wedding...

Question

My father is getting remarried to a woman that he'll have been dating for only 9 months on their wedding date.The date is also a special one since it is the one year anniversary of my parents divorce. When he asked me to be a bridesmaid, he basically begged, so I agreed. The bridesmaid dress has already been ordered since the wedding is happening so quickly. But since I have told him that I'll be a bridesmaid, I've found out what a jerk my father has been to my mom. Once he is married he wants to cut down on the visiting time my mother has with my younger sister (I'm 18 so visiting rights no longer apply to me). He has been very mean to my mother the past few weeks. I could elaborate more, but that's besides the point

So now, how do I tell him that I've changed my mind and no longer wish to support this second marriage by being a part of the wedding party? Or is it too late?

Thanks for any help.

Answer 1

Its not to late.  Just sit him down and tell him you have changed your mind and will pay for the dress if she cannot find a replacement that is your size.

Ask him to meet you in a public place and tell him.  He can't get mad and yell.  Tell him the truth and then leave.

Answer 2

You didn't want to be in it in the first place, so you're not really changing your mind, are you?

I would find the money somehow to pay him for the dress (since it's already been ordered), and tell him you just can't do it.

This is going to be hard. Good luck.

Answer 3

That is very wrong and immature how he is with your mother,but he's your dad and you should be a part of the wedding.

Answer 4

Be open with your father and tell him exactly how you feel.  He's your father.  He will probably be upset at first, but he will get over it.

Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Just tell ur dad exactly how you feel...and don't attend the wedding. He should not be hurting ur mom like that.

You should be proud of yourself....sticking up for your mom.

good luck

Answer 6

Grin and bear it!

He will get the hint after he's married and you

no longer visit as often!