I've fallen in love, but i'm in a relationship, help please?

Question

Recently, I travelled abroad to Marmaris in Turkey and the holiday wasn't all that good to be honest. But the people staying in the hotel were absolutely great. As it was nearing to the end of my holiday (probably about 3 or 4 days before i was meant to leave) this family checked in to the hotel. My family and I got chatting to this other family and talked to them all about Marmaris and things like that. This family that came to stay had a daughter with them. Now, i'm in a relationship and i entirely love my girlfriend and i haven't even looked at another girl since but this girl just sent me of balance. I immediately liked her. So i started to spend more time with her and for some reason i started flirting and i could tell she really liked me too. We started seeing more of each other and went out basically ever night of the last days of my holiday. All i wanted to do was see her. On the final day of my holiday, i gave her a present saying thank you and we swapped phone numbers and IM addresses. Which is when we kissed. I couldn't believe what i did but i just couldn't stop myself. That last day we spent entirely together and we kissed a lot more. Then i had to leave. But i just didn't want to, i felt as if i wanted to stay there with her forever. She told me she didn't want me to leave at all, and that she was beginning to feel as if she loved me. But i had to leave. So thats what i did. And ever since i can't stop thinking about her. I think i'm in love with her, but i'm in a serious relationship and i love my girlfriend also but i just can't stop thinking about this girl. She's still in Turkey and i'm now back at home and i'm worried and jealous if she meet anyone else whilst i'm back home. I don't understand i've never felt like this since i'd got with my girlfriend. The girl i met has completely made me fall head over heels. And although she lives down south and really far away from me, i feel as if it doesn't matter. I can't wait until she gets back so we can talk again, but i'm scared of what this might do to my relationship. I'm so confused but one thing i know is that i love this girl, but i also love my girlfriend. What should i do?

Please help.

Thanks.

Answer 1

Well you cheated and that is not right. I understand that you can't help who you fall for. You should tell your gf that you love her but you did something inappropriate on your trip. The best thing to do would be to write out everything you like about both girls and find a way to understand who you want to be with most. It isn't fair to any of them and it also isn't fair to you. You should be with the one you love most. Even though it will be hard to decide, you need to. Life is hard but you are very lucky because you have two people who really love you. Hope everything goes well for you.

Answer 2

This was just a holiday romance, just think u will probably never see this girl again.

I think you need to tell your girlfriend what happend or the guilt will probably get to you.

Just think about it, if you love your girlfriend wud u have dne this?

x

Answer 3

You don't love your girlfriend and i feel so sorry for her. You need to tell her, no matter what the outcome.

Answer 4

this was just a one off

i doubt u acutally love her

u have a girfriend so just concentrate on your relationship with her !  

Answer 5

right i know you might feel like your in love with this girl but the fact is that it probably was just a holiday romance, you had fun together but i doubt it will lead to a long term thing. after all you live far apart and long distance relationships are hard especially when you are young. also you haven't known this girl very long and so you probably don't know her that well. i would really consider what i have said because will you may have feelings for her its just not practical. as for your gf well, i don't really know what to say you say you love her and maybe you do, maybe this was just a fling but if not then i think you should consider your relationship with her maybe she isn't the girl for you. good luck x

Answer 6

it is obvious that you are too immature for a serious relationship at this time in your life.

The thing  to do is go slow and let yourself grow and mature until you reach the point in your life where you can fully accept a adult relationship.