I've got a feeling my teenage son is spying on his mom, how should i deal with it?

Question

3 nights ago,i came home from work early,and i saw my son hurriedly coming from the backyard late at night.i was curious and went there which was very dark and a chair was suddenly placed under the window i stood up the chair and saw my wife through a gap in the blinds taking a shower.so what else might he be doing there at that moment? i felt bad knowing that he might be spying on his own mom and thinking of sexual thoughts,i felt mad and bothered at that time but i dont know how to confront him.is it normal for his age to have an oedipal complex?how could i tell him to stop it if he was doing it?does it have to do with my wife's big b***s?cause she's his mom and very wrong.my son is a 15 y.o.loving and shy boy,yet my suspicion may be wrong.what should i do?

Answer 1

I'm having a hard time believing you. If you were REALLY a Dad, you would KNOW what to do in this situation.

Answer 2

HIT HIM... hard

Answer 3

It is your duty as his father to have the "birds and bees" chat.

I would suggest the sooner the better.

a 15yr old boy's hormones are doing summersaults backwards, and perving at is Mom, is NOT kosher!!!

I personally would not condone p**n magazines, but under the circumstances, I would prefer him looking at pictures, rather than my WIFE!!

Answer 4

He is 15...and curious but it  should not be his mother , it's time you had a chat with him about boys and girls..ask him does he have any question he would like to ask you ,  make sure the blinds are closed tight , and put the chair away somewhere..I'm not sure if he needs to know ..you know what he was doing..but by closing the blinds and moving the chair, it will make him think again about what he is doing...don't make to big a deal out of this...it's hard enough being a boy of 15yrs but do something ...talk to him ...if you go over the top with this matter ..it could cause him to become secretive and then you will never be able to talk to him..encourage him to be more open with you and his mother....don't make him feel he is evil or a pervert..he is only checking out the differences between mal and female...you don't want him growning up feeling filled with shame and guilt...that would serve no purpose at all.. as his father it would be better you spoke to him.

Answer 5

Your his Father, It's your resonsibility to talk to him,,, Talk to your wife first and the three of you should sit down and talk about it... Although uncomfortable, you should do it anyway..It's a parents resonsibilty.. Boys will be boys, but not with his Mom!!