I've had 4 pregnancies, but only one live birth and my daughter died after 31 days?

Question

I'm wondering if my chances of having a child are getting slimmer. I am 32 years old, average health, don't do drugs (was on anti-depressants after my baby died), don't drink. I have had 2 miscarriages, one live birth in which my baby girl died of a congenital heart defect after 31 days and now I'm having a 3rd miscarriage. I'm getting discouraged and really sad that I may never have a healthy child or a full term pregnancy again. Anyone been through something like this before and had good results with a healthy child? I'm looking for hope.

Answer 1

Anything is possible, so keep trying. Sometimes people just cant have children without some heart break. My boss had 6 miscarriages before she had her 1st son, then 5 more before her second. And of course, you could always look into fertility clinics and adoption or surrogate mothers. Just dont give up.

Answer 2

If you are still taking an antidepressant it could be like my story:

Are you taking Prozac or another anti-depressant?

When I was 20 and first became sexually active, I was a day late and then started to bleed profusely. There were heavy heavy clots, and when I stood up from a chair at college, the blood just seeped down my leg and soaked my pants. For two days I woke up in a puddle of blood in my bed. This lasted for five days, but the last two days were lighter.

I called my boyfriend who took me to the doctor and I was tested. He said that it was likely that I had been pregnant, but the test was negative because it was too early to read it, even if I was still pregnant.

Now I am married and have two children, ages 11 and 6. In between them I had three more miscarriages between weeks 8 and 16. The first one I saw on ultrasound with no heartbeat. My doctor told me to go home and let nature run its course. After five days I couldn't take it anymore. I called the doctor and he prescribed a drug to put me into labor- I had to take one each hour for three hours. He didn't even think about pain killers, but I had some in the medicine cabinet from a different problem. I was sent home to deliver with my husband a fleshy baby boy about two inches long - at home. (It was the saddest day of my life.) The second one was a blighted ovum, and the third one was at 12 weeks. At this point I insisted on a DNC.

I got to know all the symptoms of pregnancy and miscarriage by our second loss. I could tell the day of implantation by the cramping and sometimes light bleeding. Headaches signalled the end of hcg production, as well as cramps and heavy heavy bleeding and clots were the passing of tissue and cleansing my body. The cause of my miscarriages? Prozac. I went off of it for my last pregnancy, upon the advice of a fertility specialist and Mayo Clinic in Rochester Minnesota. He said that some women cannot carry a baby while taking Prozac. - I am one of them.

After my 6 year old was born, I developed very heavy bleeding and cramping on a monthly basis. It caused severe anemia, (headaches constantly) so I had a uterine ablation which ended my cycles. I haven't had a period for over a year and I still have my uterus and ovaries!

You might get an iron test or start taking iron supplements, as low iron can actually cause miscarriage.

One helpful thing I was told to do after one miscarriage are to take one baby asprin a day. It doesn't hurt the baby, but since many miscarriages are caused by blood clots in the fetus, it helps prevent this.

Hang in there and let God know that you aren't going to give up until you have an answer! Someday soon you will be holding that baby in your arms with tears of joy like I was!

Answer 3

My mom had a three preemies, the first was born alive but died after two weeks. The second two were too premature and were still-born. Then, she and my dad decided to adopt because she was told that she could not have children and went on birth control. After she adopted me, three and a half years later the birth control failed and she got pregnant with my little sister! To prevent a premature birth, they had to sew her cervix closed until sometime in the third trimester. My sister was breech and had to be delivered by cesarean, but she is very healthy and is today 18 years old! So yes, there is definitely hope for you! (But being an adopted child, there are many children out there who need a mom, too. So please consider it!)

Answer 4

My mom was 45 when she try to get pregnant again from my stepfather. She had 3 miscarriages, she took all this medication that will help her conceive and no luck. But her last resort was Jesus Christ. She started devotion her life to God. She prayed that the Lord will give her a baby. God answer her prayer. She now had a beautiful baby girl and it's all because of Jesus Christ. She had her at 48 yrs old. Don't give up!! Have faith that you will have a healthy beautiful child one day. Be patient with the Lord. Read the bible there are a couple of stories about women that couldn't conceive and the Lord grandted they desire. There is HoPe in Jesus<3

Answer 5

I'm so sorry for your losses! I have had only 2 pregnancies. The first one I carried to 25 weeks, had a live birth and he lived for 24 hours. The second pregnancy I was on a medication to stop me from going into early labor. I carried to 33 weeks and she spent 17 days in the NICU, and is now a healthy almost 7 month old.

I know how hard it must be for you. I don't know if you want to try again, but if you don't, there are many wonderful babies and children out there that would love to have a Mommy to love them through adoption. My husband and I decided not to try to have anymore because with my second, my uterus started to split open and they said that good thing we were already at the hospital because me and my baby could have died. So we don't want to take that chance again. So if we ever do decide to have more, we are going to adopt.

Good luck with whatever you do.

Answer 6

I have lost 4 pregnancys in the last four years. It is so hard, and it seems so unfair. But keep trying! Has your dr. done test to see if there is anything with your blood? or any other complications? You can get prego, so thats a start, and taking it step by step is all you can do. I hope the best for you, but DONT give up!!!! Baby dust!