I've had three psychiatrists tell me they believe I have Borderline Personality disorder.?

Question

What can I do to help myself?

What does this mean, being male esp?

How can I be a better boyfriend to the next girl I date, whoever she may be.

Any advice would be nice.. I want ot be normal. I'm tired of lving in my past. I've also sworn off alcohol.

Answer 1

Help yourself....Seek  treatment and therapy.  Try to become more aware of yourself and what the disorder does, so you can try to control it more.  I dont know BPD as well but with my bipolar ive learned to keep my rages in because more often then not they are unjustified, and even when they are justified my reactions will tend to be a bit more intence then should be.  Learn to be aware of your pesceptions that you KNOW are wrong, but unless you are really aware and make a concious effort, you will react in the wrong way.

As far as being a better boyfriend.  First take care of yourself.  Second, comunicate very openly with her about it so she knows what is going on.  Will be a bit easier to take a moment you are acting like and a**hole and "hate her" or are blaming her for things that arent her fault, or anything of that nature if she fully understands that it is the illness, and how your mind is working in those moments.  But being more aware of yourself and learning self control to keep those kinds of outbursts in until the episode passes would help great......even if you are seathing and blaming thing on her or whatever, if it all stays in your head, at least most of the time.....would do your relationship a lot of good in the long run.   I know thats the big thing with BPD is walking on eggshells with someone with it and rages and such.  If you can learn to recognise it coming on and either keep it in or find another outlet for it.  Also if its going to be a serious long term relationship, her seeing a therapist would be a very good idea as well.    

Also, just accepting you have this illness and seeking help is a huge step.......especially with that illness

edited to add:

I wasn't just saying be honest about it......i was assuming you would be.  Im saying be open.  When you are calm and thinking clearly talk to her openly about how your mind goes, how your thought prossesses work in the bad times.  Maybe journal or blog when you are not doing as well and any entrys that would help her understand you and how your mind works share with her.  Thats the biggest obstical is that your mind works differently.  The more she can understand and accept that and seperate that from who you are as a person, the easier it will be to remain in a relationship....and thats where therapy on her end would help too.  And also taking her imput on things she notices.

Also you working to control it so she doesnt have to deal with the ugly side of the illness as much, that makes it easier...easyer to deal with something that only causes issues every once in a while, then it is to deal with something that causes issues every day.  It takes work on both sides of the relationship.

Answer 2

Mood swing.

Do not let out your anger or feelings that you know you will make someone feel sad about it. Control your mood.

Answer 3

The best thing you can do for yourself is to get treatment. There is medication you can take and therapy you can do. That is probably the best way you can help yourself.

Although this disorder is more common in women, i don't believe there is any differences in presentation between genders. So being male doesn't  make it different. I'm not sure if you are asking what the disorder is, if so, this will probably give you a good idea.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_...

The best advice i could give you is to find a doctor you like and seek treatment. It is good that you are motivated to change and the best way to do that is with professional help.

Answer 4

It sounds like you're really commited to making changes in your life.  I just wanted to encourage you.  Fighting something like this can seem like an uphill battle at times, but it IS possible.

I had a relative who was diagnosed with several personality disorders, including borderline personality disorder, and the changes--the positive changes--I've seen in him over the past few years are AMAZING.

Oh, and his realtionship with God made a huge difference to him...it's hard to do this sort of thing on your own.

Answer 5

Excellent, Alcohol is a toxic substance and you will be much better off without it. That alone will improve your physical and mental health as well. The other questions can be directed to your Doctors they should be able to help you find your way to healing of your mind and sanity. Bod Bless you, you have done a good thing by getting free of Alcohol, and will be able to; help others do the same, if you wish.    

Answer 6

I dont know what borderline personality is...but my word of advice, dont worry about it..just live....