I've just discovered i'm pregnant with my third baby!?

Question

I already have two gorgeous sons, one who is now 4 and the other who is 14 months old. We really hadn't planned on having more children just yet but yesterday i discovered I was pregnant again for the third time. I feel very confused at the moment, I'm happily married so the fact I'm pregnant is fine, my husband is extremly happy. I also feel happy and excited about having another one, but I also feel guilty and don't know if these feelings are normal. I had a 3 year age gap between my first towo which I have found perfect, I got to dedicate a whole 3 years of my time to my eldest son and I enjoy spending some quality alone time with my 14 month old while my eldest is at nursery. The age gap between my youngest and the new baby will be approximately 22 months. I feel guilty that my youngest will miss out on me. Also I am still breastfeeding. I know this may sound like a very silly question as I would never ever consider a termination and i know that I am very lucky to have been blessed with another bundle of joy to come, but I was wondering if anyone else had felt the same when discovering they were pregnant? x

Answer 1

my first was 8 when i had my second and i wish i had them closer so i had my third right after my second. they are a year and 2months apart. as nice as it is to have one at a time but two babies are not as bad and my second is showing my third how to crawl and they enjoy each others company. it really isnt bad.

Answer 2

First of all, congratulations!  I know it's a bit scary, but you will be all right.  I have 4 kids, all of whom are very close in age.  My oldest was 5 in May, the next will be 4 in October (17 months apart), the next will be 2 in September (23 months apart) and the last will be 1 in December (15 months apart).

Let me tell you how much emotional drama I experienced over all this.  We tried for 1-1/2 years to get pregnant before conceiving #1, so we thought that it would be just as difficult conceiving #2.  That's why when #1 was only 6 months old, we pulled the plug on birth control and, boom, I got pregnant within just a couple of months.  I was very emotional, not ready for a second baby, but I gathered myself together and had him, and they are the best of buds.  We did plan for the 3rd, it happened a little sooner than we'd planned (I went off the birth control, and no joke, like 2 weeks later we found out I was pregnant).  After having him, we thought we were done.  We didn't do any permanent b.c. methods, just in case one day we changed our minds (we're fairly young and our kids were still young). We were using just condoms, though, because I was trying to decide which method of b.c. to use.  My baby boy was only 6 months old when we found out I was pregnant again.  Let me tell you (and my husband can vouch) how I cried and cried over that.  It took me about 6-8 weeks to finally come to grips with it, but now I'm overjoyed.  My little daughter (yep, 3 boys, then a girl) is such a delightful baby--she's so happy and loving (always giving kisses, always giving hugs--and her brothers just ADORE her and dote on her).  It's still hard, but I wouldn't trade that mistake for anything in the world!

Answer 3

I'm a male, so I've never been pregnant, but congratulations!

Answer 4

well first, congrats.. You sound very confused right now. Please understand there is a reason for everything. Actually I found out last night that I am expecting my 3rd. Like you, we only thought we were finished. But we are beyond happy and hope everything just goes well with it all. I just wanted to say that my oldest is 3 and my youngest (which will be middle) is 1. They are 21 months apart. I stay at home with my children. I love how they are so close in age to be honest with you. I will say, it can be a rollercoaster ride on some days though. lol.. There's good days and bad days. It can get stressful at times but nothing you will not beable to handle. It will take some getting used to at first because of their age difference. But it will all be just fine.. Your youngest will do ok. Just include your youngest into everything as far as helping with the baby, etc. Good luck and congrats

Answer 5

Yes, and believe me, you will get through it! It doesn't matter if you have one child or five children God will take care of y'all! You just have to believe!

Answer 6

Congratulations, senora !!

Answer 7

I was in exactly the same situation. My oldest is four and he has a two and a half year age gap with his sister and I've just found out I'm pregnant with my 3rd. There won't even be two years difference between my youngest and this one. LIke you I would never consider an abortion but I wasn't sure how to react at first as having two is a handful but I'm looking forward to it now and I'm used to it.  

Answer 8

congrats to you and your hubby. i'm also pregnant with my 3rd. i have 2 beautiful girls who are 8 and 9 and they are just as excited. i did go through a "what if" stage but as your baby grows, you'll see that you can still involve both your other children in everything. take them baby shopping and give them choices about the baby too. what your feeling is normal  

Answer 9

Relax!  Your feelings and anxieties are perfectly normal.  I found that the transition from 2 children to 3 was VERY easy because the first 2 kept each other occupied...and the oldest was a *huge* helper, as far as running for diapers, getting cloths, etc.  I bought a boppy and let my oldest child hold and feed the baby while I would do dishes or cook dinner.  And as long as you spend quality time with your children whether alone, or all together, they will be perfectly fine and happy!  

Good luck!

Answer 10

im a boy so im not gna say yhhh pregnancy meeh BUT my mum has had 6 kids all wiv the same dad were all very loved we all love our mummy haha theres no reason to feel guilty shes been poopings us out for 18 yrs shes been abe to love us all the same...the youngest girl gets all the attention and my 2yr old bro doesnt even care haha...trust me your gna be a great mum u got lots of expirience under your wing SOOO relax sit down and make your hubby masage your feet ^.^

Answer 11

You're human. And no two people perceive one situation exactly the same. Just relax and enjoy your pregnancy, you have 8ish months to plan.

Answer 12

Hey there,

I have not been in your shoes exactly. But, I think this is just a wonderful sign of what a great mom you are. You are already worried about the little one.

But, the reason I posted is this. I am the oldest of three children. My younger brother and sister are exactly 22 months apart. And they are so close. My mom passed away 5 years ago and I think that sibling relationships are so important.

You may not be able to spend the time with the little one, like you did your first one, but you are giving your family the ultimate gift.

Congrats