I've never met my father and now he's coming out of prison. HELP!?

Question

I'm 16 now and I have never met my father! I want to but my mom keeps me from him. When she was pregnant he got into some trouble with the law. A burglary or something I've never been told the whole story only bits and pieces. Lately I've been hearing about him coming out of prison and my mom wanting a divorce. My mom has been crying a lot she seems confused. Yesterday I asked her if I could meet him and she said no. I don't know what to do. I want to meet him. Please give me some advise.

Answer 1

tell her: "i know its hard for you to see this man who you conseived a child with and probably hate him so much for leaving you alone with a baby and all but I still deserve the right to meet the man who you assume to be my father. And I may choose that I dont like him and it was a bad idea but its my duty do find out for myself not you for me."

She may find it hard at first but after you sit down and talk to her about Im sure she will hesitate at first to bring you but will be happy she did even if the outcome is disasterous.

I wish you all the best of luck Em<3

Answer 2

Look, I know it might be hard to understand, well I am not going to treat you like a child but he might not want a child. Your Mom might be trying to stop you from getting into the wrong crowd. Your Mom is trying to do the best so try and do what she says. x x

Answer 3

Tell her that you are heart sick because you don't know who your father is. Say you know he has done some things but keeping you from him is just making you upset

Answer 4

wow! if you really want to meet him, wait a month before you next bring up the subject and be helpful around the house and stuff. then ask for  a very serious daughter mother talk. hope i helped!

Answer 5

If you want to meet your father then you should be given the

opportunity.  Ask your mom if you can have a supervised

visit with your dad and another member of your family.

Ask her to arrange the meeting in a public place. I must

add this though, your dad might not know about you, or

might not want to meet you.  Talk with other members of

your family for help with talking to your mom. Talk with your school counselor and get some help with this.  Good luck honey.

Answer 6

obviously your mum is hurting at the situation also, but you need to sit down and talk to her.

Explain to her, that you understand she is hurting at the moment but don't fully understand the exact feelings she has. Being there for her at the moment might help he relax alittle. Maybe try and explain that you would like to meet him, maybe explain some reasons why, but also hear her side too.

I'm sure you can come to some sort of compromise.

Good luck hun :)  

Answer 7

If your under 18 then you have no choice but to listen to your mother.

Find out were he is and sneak to see him.  Don't let your mom find out.  And then he might just show up their with visiting rights

Answer 8

you have the right to because its your father contact your local social services and theyll tell you the next step good luck