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I've tried everything.....I just really don't know how to make it work help?

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So, me and the father of my two daughters split up in January. He has a new girlfriend whom is currently pregnant with his third child. And I fully respect this. I don't have any problem with her, although, from what i hear she's not the nicest person in the world. I was raised in a very close knit family, and I believe it's crucial for him to be in the girls' lives. But his new g/f is always objective to him being around me. I can understand that to a certain extent, but I've sat down and talked to her about how I'm accepting of their relationship and although it may be hard for me, If he's happy I'm happy for him. But still, she throws a sh*t fit every time he comes to see the girls. I'm someone that believes there is a way to have a family without the parents of the children being together. I want a friendship with him. I don't want it to be mommy one day daddy the next. I don't think it's wrong for me to want to take the girls to do things together....WITH him. I've tried my best to befriend his girlfriend....but she always seems to brush my gestures off, and turns around and tells my ex I'm "harassing" her. It's ridiculous. I understand she's a huge part of his life now, but I don't think that gives her the right to push my kids out of it.....Any advice?

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I'm not saying me and him need to be with our kids alone.....likt I've said, his g/f is being difficult, and will not agree to come and do things with us all. I'm sorry I'm just trying to set a positive enviornment for my kids, and considering that her child and my children ARE going to be related, I think it;s best that we also become friends, or h**l at least be ceach other eachother.

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  1. There's nothing you can do. She just sounds like a really s****. SOB. Just keep doing what your doing, no one can ask for any more.


  2. if my husbands ex wife wanted to be friends with him i would not allow it. sorry but it is common sense.... see it from her view.

    sometimes, life sucks - and your kids will just have to do things with him and her - not YOU included in there. I would go spastic if my husband were hanging out with the mother of his children!

    i know you want what is best for the kids - but in this battle, you cant win. i hope she treats the kids nice, shes carrying their half sibling.

    My suggestion : give up. accept that you cannot be a 'family' even every saturday with this man.  

  3. Man, I have to applaud the way you have handled this.  Seems like you are doing everything that can be done.  The new gf just seems like a jealous *****.  What does he think about this?  Doesn't he want to be with your kids.  If he does maybe he'll see the truth about her.  Good luck.

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