I AM CONSIDERING GIVING UP TTC AFTER 12MTHS?? SHOULD I?

Question

im 42 been ttc baby #3 for 12mths.

had every test done all clear

been prescribed clomid (in my 1st month)

dont know how much longer i should keep trying .

im thinking maybe i should give up ?

brokenhearted :-(

Answer 1

no dont give up, but do take a little break. and it will happen when you least expect it to. good luck!

Answer 2

Keep on trying. Its good fun for you both.

Answer 3

Dont every completely give up on anything you want to do.

Put your baby plans on the back burner at the moment and try n relax about it and you have more chance of it happening naturally.

You could tell your partner that too and just have lots of 'bedroom fun' together without the 'ooh if we do it like this it will be more likely to conceive'  stuff just get proper kinky and see what happens.

Best of luck whatever you decide

Answer 4

Dont give up yet!  My hubby and I have also been trying for 12 months, we lost our son last yr in a preterm still birth.  I have now been on clomid for 4 months.  They say that 6 months is a good run to see if clomid works or not, so dont give up now, give it a chance and let it take its course.  We discussed stopping our ttc, but now I am 6 days late and REALLY hoping!  It is a heartwrenching experience I know, but it will happen, have faith!  Prayers and baby dust for you!  

Answer 5

No keep trying, it took me about 18 months of trying and I was healthy and young, only 20. (TTC #2) I would just stop stressing over it. That might help, just relax and let it happen...it seems thats when it always does. As soon as you stop "trying"

Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

don't give up hope hun, I'm trying not 2.

i wish you all the best and like every1 says stop stressing, (easier said then done i know)

i wish you all the best and enjoy trying, at least it keeps ya fit and you know its worth it. good luck and baby dust.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 7

You have only been on Clomid for one month? Keep on trying. One year is sometimes the average for a couple in their twenties. And there are so many other options out there, that your doctor should be able to give you, if the Clomid doesn't end up helping. But one month is nothing. It took my mother over a year to fall pregnant with me at age 40. And it took me almost a year to fall pregnant at age 25. Don't give up.One year is not long for TTC (although, when really wanting a baby, it feels like a lifetime!)

Answer 8

Don't give up

Answer 9

Don't give up sweetie! Try to relax and stop stressing out over it.... it will happen.... best of luck!

Answer 10

I'm so sorry for you. Best thing to do is keep trying until you feel like you can't physically and emotionally take the strain any more.  Leave it down to fate. If you have another one you'll be delighted, if you don't you'll still have 2 beautiful kids.  

Answer 11

If you still want a baby then I wouldn't give up. It took my mom's friend (who is 40) 2 years of trying and she finally got pregnant.  

Answer 12

Have you considered doing IVF?  Once you hit a certain age, the longer you keep trying without medical help, the lower the chances are that you will get pregnant.  Egg quality declines pretty rapidly after age 40.  

Your insurance might even cover it, depending on where you live.  

Answer 13

never give up hope....... ul regret it xx

Answer 14

give up and just do it for fun it will happen im sure ,i pray 4 u dear

Answer 15

I understand your frustration....completely....I'm 37, still no baby after trying 10 months.  We're trying IUI this month...it is really expensive and if it doesn't work....I'm done with all of this but we have mild male factor issues.

As far as 'don't try, it'll happen'--- it doesn't work either....been there, done it....and stats show that if you're charting your bbt temps and doing it at the right times, you'll be pregnant within 4-6 months.  We've done that too.....

Fact of the matter is...some people have fertility issues and 'relaxing' it not going to make any difference, so do not feel bad for 'trying' to have a baby...many couples get pregnant that way all the time.  Stress only affects your chances of ovulation...if you're ovualting...you are able to get pregnant...stress has nothing to do with it.

Good luck ....you're not the only one struggling with this ...

Best of luck!

Answer 16

If your tests have come back all clear, and if you'd still like a baby don't stop trying.  If it's meant to happen then i'm sure it will... think you should give the clomid a bit more of a chance too :)

Good luck

Maj

Answer 17

May be you are trying too much!

Give up - take a break and if it happens!..Brill!

I wish you the best!

Answer 18

I know exactly how you feel. It took my husband and I 1.5 years to conceive my son. But the problem is you are worrying too much about it and trying too hard. One day I decided not to try and get pregnant anymore. I decided to look at other aspects of my life and do something different. So, I decided to go back to school. Well once I went to get everything ready to start I found out that I was pregnant. God works in mysterious ways. You just have to believe in him and not try at all. I know it is hard but just put it in the back of your mind and have fun. Good things come to those who wait. You will get your wish. good luck and always have hope!!!!  

Answer 19

keep trying it WILL happen, just don't stress about it , it hasn't been that long yet!

good luck to you!

Answer 20

dont give up but dont think about it as much i tried for 7 years and finally i said i am never getting pregnant well i met my new fiance in sept 07 and i got pregnant the first time we had s*x..... so just dont stress it as much but dont give up

Answer 21

Yes, because it's likely you will get pregnant, when you're not trying. :) As long as you're doing the deed, the odds are good that you will, but if you tell yourself you're not even trying, it will take that pressure away... Good luck!  

Answer 22

No, Dont give up!  12 months is a lot, and i bet what you want is just round the corner.

"I can accept losing, but i cannot accept not trying!"

Answer 23

Hi

Keep trying i know its hard to try and keep positive, i was trying for over 12mth and when i decided ok maybe this isn't going to happen i feel pregnant, unfortunately i lost my little one at 8weeks but we are back trying, anyway what i really wanted to tell you was that i was talking to a friend of mine and she told me about her aunt who is in her 40's and managed to conceive, give the clomid a little longer to work, if you need someone to talk to feel free to contact me

baby dust to you

becky

Answer 24

On average it takes a woman at least 12 months to concieve. So if you are just hitting that 12 month point I wouldn't give up quite yet! However, being stressed out might make it more difficult to have a child. Usually when people give up, that's when they have the baby!

Good luck

Answer 25

Stop trying ! but don`t use contraceptives. Friends of mine kept trying and when they stopped "trying" it happened ! It was all down to relaxing more, not being under pressure. GOOD LUCK