I Always Feel Kind Of Lonely..

Question

Can someone tell me how I can fix that feeling and not feel so cold anymore?

Thank you if you do help..

Answer 1

Hm,  When we are hurt by others , we tend to shut down the part of us that seeks company.  We fear  negative actions by others.... 'cuz our hearts JUST can NOT take it if they are careless with our emotions .    Try  doing something nice for someone tomorrow... just a kind gesture of some sorts.  Even IF what you do is annonomous , it will open your heart a little bit.  

Also JUST KNOW that sometimes people hurt us with UNintentionally, we just happen to be there when they blow off steam.  Make the decision to ENJOY YOUR day no MATTER what anyone else does.  

Answer 2

i am in the same boat man if that helps.

Answer 3

My nana always said being lonely and being alone are very different things. If you are not fulfilled as a person you can be in a crowded room and still feel lonely. Learn to love you coz even if you got married tomorrow to your true love you would still feel like this. Just embrace you warts and all and love yourself regardless of what you think others feel toward you. If you do have issues with the way others have treated you and that has brought you here, get out a pen and paper and write them a letter giving them their c**p back. It does not belong to you and is not your responsibility.

Answer 4

You might try getting involved in community or church activities.  You are bound to meet people there and may find out there are things  you have in common.  Usually such activities tend to have people that are nonjudgmental which will make it easier for you to get to know someone.

You don't say if you are a teenager, young abult, or older.  Also, you didn't indicate you living arrangements:  Living at home, living in a dorm, living alone, or with a roommate(s).

If you do have people around you now and are still feeling lonely, there may be some social or mental health issue that needs to be addressed.  Is there anyone that you can talk to?  If there is but you feel uncomfortable doing this, sometimes talking to a third, unbias party is better.  Check to see if there are any community support programs in your area.  You may even consider talking to a clergyman if you have any ties to a church or synagogue.  

I suffer from a mental disorder that also included having a hard time being with people.  It left me feeling alone and abandoned.  I did get professional help   Among the different things I tried was getting involved in a rehab center (they don't like to call them that now but essentially that is what is was).  This was part of a community support program.  It helped me a lot in getting to reestablishing relationships with others.  I found people with similar issues like I had and they were not judgmental.

I was an outgoing person before my mental disorder worsened.  I started out shy when I was young.  But I became more willing to meet and greet people, even strangers.  When I started into that dark period of my life, I became very withdrawn.  Through therapy, medication, and counseling, I was able to go out public.  Also, my faith, praying (talking with God: He is a great listener), and reading the Bible helped me a lot.  

Sometimes there are things in a person's life that one does not see but are sending out the wrong message to others around that person.  Beginning to understand and know yourself may bring you a deeper understanding in relationships that may come your way.

God bless.

Answer 5

well, i'd say to be around happy people as much as possible. go out with your friends more often or join a team of any kind. Just surround yourself with people you love and that should help. at least i hope it does. i'm sorry you're feeling that way.

Answer 6

sorry I can't help but i feel the exact same way lately and I couldn't tell you why. It really sucks and it's the wierdest thing because I have friends and everything. i dunno but i hope you feel better.

Answer 7

Seriously tough question, my friend. I was there once, until a few things changed:

-moved to a new area

-met a group of people that were more like me

-fell in love

2 years later:

-I'm finally taking control of my emotions, refusing to feel sad or lonely unless I have a good reason to

Its sucked and I'm still working on it, its a continual process of taking charge of the situation. I don't suggest you pack up and move, but try do something that makes you feel in control of your own destiny. Empowerment is like magic for the perpetual loneliness/blues you're feeling. Especially when you pursue activities that you consider important, or self-improving, which also tend to me great ways to meet people. For me it was college and volunteering. A lot of people enjoy yoga, adult ed classes, etc etc.

Good luck. Be persistent, world outlooks don't change overnight.