I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!!!!???? help please!!!?

Question

my little sister...ughh i hate her...ok so yesterday she broke my favorite sun-glasses on purpose...yea no big deal, but she never got in trouble..if i say a "bad" word, i get in trouble, but if she breaks something of mine she doesnt..its NOT fair!!!!

then the next morning she gave me a note saying sorry with 5 bucks attached...so today, she took my favorite teddy bear...(it means a lot to me..even tho im 14) and she started to take it from me, so i pulled on it and she did to, and then i said let go you fatty...(she is fat) and she pulled my hair..and then she told me give me my 5 dollars back, and im like ok here, and i ripped it in half...

who is the "bad " guy here???

me or my sister??

shes 13 im 14...i know i should be the adult here, but if you know my sister...ughhh...thats why i WANT to die, she also tells me i wish you had cancer, or tumor...i cant take it im breaking down!!

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am i the bad guy here?

*best answer i will give*

Answer 1

yeah, its your sister. the grownup thou, should be you, but she's 13 and REALLY shouldn't be doing it. both of you should be the grownups, actually. she has no reason to be doing this stuff that she does. just try ignoring her or if that doesn't work you can ask your parents about it. yeah, i get that, too. i just stopped talking to my brother and he was picky for awhile but now, we're able to have a halfway decent conversation.

Answer 2

i dont neccasarily think that u the bad guy, but 2 wrongs dont make a right! i am so sorry about what she tells u, thats deffanitly not right! i will be praying for u!

Answer 3

get a lock on your door and keep everything in your room! if you dont have a lock always keep it shut. keep everything secluded.. and DO NOT talk to her. leave her alone. i feel so bad for you. if i was your sis i would be nice to you i would love to have a sis.

Answer 4

Just try to be calm patient and nice! See where that gets ya!

Answer 5

it was totally her my bff has a lil sis and she is a brat who never gets blamed 4 ne thin but she is 9 so imagine bein in her shoes besides ur lil sis should grow up and get a life

Answer 6

well its alot of teen hormones flying. Take to ur parents and c if they can have a family meeting so you can ALL talk about whats doing on. try to create boundaries that YOU BOTH agree on. Write her a letter on how her behavior is upsetting u. YOU ARE NOT AN ADULT. YOU SHOULDN"T HAVE TO "be" THE ADULT. YOU ARE 1 YEAR OLDER. what MAY be causing the agument is u are treating her more like very young baby sister rather than a sister. YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TALK TO EACHOTHER. treat her like ur friend, not a baby. u aren't the bad guy, and neither is ur sister. ur just going through some hard times in a teens life. SHE STILL LOVES you and im sure she doesn't mean to hurt u. COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!

Answer 7

Sweetheart, this is a situation that I have seen so many times before.  Usually it's the guys that are doing this, but us girls have the same problems as well.  Dad calls it 'lion pride syndrome', meaning that  there are two or more of one gender fighting for status and position in the home.  It's completel;y normal, though it is a pain in the sit-down.  This is not a matter of who is right and who is wrong, this is a matter of what IS.  You are both exhibiting very normal behavior, and you both are being mean and rude to each other.  You are BOTH at fault for this, and both of you need to apologize to each other.  you aren't the adult in this issue.  You are only adding fuel to the fire when she mis-behaves by reacting negatively to her attitude.  As for your parents not showing any action in this manner-->  that's an old parenting 'trick' or tecnique if you prefer.  It's their way of making you two resolve the issue yourselves, rather than depend on an outside source to make a ruling.  IOW, the are 'forcing' you two  to grow up and act like adults by settling your differences by yourselves.  

Some of dad's rules:

Never let the sun go down on on your anger

Never let it hurt to be the first one to say "I'm sorrry"

When you fight, you may only fight while holding hands or hugging.

Never raise your voice; quiet speech requires more listening than a loud voice

Never throw 'daggers' at each other (no insulting or putting someone down)

Know when it is time to discuss an issue.  Take a time out until you are both cool-headed enough to be rational

These rules dad taught me a long time ago still apply, and they become even more so for dating/marriage.  Good luck, adn go talk to your sis and say you are sorry you acted badly..NEVER point fingers and say YO MADE ME or YOU DID or YOU ALWAYS--those are daggers, and just make the situation worse.

Answer 8

i promise you, she is the bad guy here. because my little sister is the same thing. whta i do, is act like what she does doesnt bother me and she slowly lets off because she realizes i dont care.  and i bring it up to my parents (not whiny but honest, pleaing) sometimes i catch her on video or record to show them. sometimes they understand and sometimes they dont. i just sit down and talk to them sometimes and try to get them to understand my side, becuase it frustrates me SOOOO bad when i get punished and she doesnt!!!! especially when shes worse!!!! i feel you completely here!

but, my situation is different i guess because me and my sisters went trhough foster care for 2 yrs away from each other. so it really gave me alot of time to think about what life was like without her, so even though she annoys the CRAPP out of me, shes in my prayers every night.

make sure you appreciate your little sister while at the same time thinking of ways to work out her horrible attitude.

and of course, harmless pranks are always accepted :)

good luck!

hope i gave you some insight!

Answer 9

I think you need to have a word with your mum or dad and see if they will help.

Answer 10

no that is called sisterly love.

My sis is a year younger than me and around that age we hated each other now were friends

and no your not the bad guy here

When she says something mean to you just ignore her, don't give her any reaction.  I would do that and my sis would get so mad...it was pretty funny.

Answer 11

ur sister is a brat!

i would like get revenge on her if i was you!

something sneeky tho.

Answer 12

i can speak from the little sisters point of view....she just wants your attenion....she looks up to you and your close in age so it wouldn't be so bad to hang out with her......just think it might be fun to have a best friend that lives down the hall from you. my sister and i never got along until i really needed a friend one day.....i'm so glad we put the differences behind us because friends come and go...sisters dont

Answer 13

well you are 14 and she is 13.you guys are only 1 year apart

i think your sister is the bad guy.but you should settle some time with your parents and talk about her with them.but without her

Answer 14

Ignore her. If she takes something of yours, act like you don't even care. Then, she'll start to go crazy because she can't drive you crazy. And when she starts acting up, just be nice to her. Sure, that'll get her even angrier, but hey. It works. :3

Answer 15

i am in the same situation, im 15 and my brother is 13, i get in trouble for EVERYTHING and i know that he pulls all kinds of **** cause he knows i will get in trouble. we can b doing the EXACT same thing but i get in trouble for it!!!!! errrrrrg!!!!!

so i would say that your sister is the bad guy here, she just has the same devious mind as my brother,and some how finds away to blame everything on you.

GOOD LUCK!!!!- and if you figure out how to get them back let me know!!!

Answer 16

I agree with the answers up there you both need to put on your big girl panties and grow up. I mean if she does something to you next time tell her to grow up she needs a heavy dose of reality

Answer 17

She seems slightly mean, but you are both children and that's what children do... squabble, dispute, argue. There is a way for you to be the mature one here, I know it sounds hard, but try to ignore her. She seems like the type of girl who gets her own way, favouritsm etc. Well, you act the mature one.

You're parents will see you being mature, ignoring her and such and will tend to take your side. She knows that she annoys you, and she will continue to do it. So don't let her know that it annoys you, ignore her, bite your tongue and feel a sense of achievement knowing that you've beating her.

Trust me, she will stop and she will become bored. Laugh to yourself, just realise that she is so pathetic doing what she is doing. You're not the bad guy, you're the oldest, the oldest get the blame all the time! I know it seems unfair, but be mature and you will get rewarded. Good luck!

Answer 18

she isnt that much younger she should know right from wrong ur parents need to stop treating her like a baby she isnt..

she needs thereapy or needs to talk to someone serisoly i feel so bad for u to have to deal with such a bad siser.

Answer 19

Your sister is the bad kid.

She should wish apon cancer on anyone...

Here is away to iriatte her....

Don't talk to her at all. Completly ignore her. Lock your bed room. And don't let her around you. She will get so p*ss*d.

Answer 20

you are both acting like spoiled brats!!! NEVER WISH ILL UPON ANY OF YOUR FAMILY that is very wrong!!!! try ignoring her

Answer 21

you're 14? you sound more like you're 5, although I can understand how annoying a little sister is, but it doesn't matter who the "bad guy" is - if you want your little sister to stop you need to tell her that if she wants to be grown up and not a little snotty brat, that she needs to behave herself. Don't fight with her next time she bugs you, it'll bore her and she'll eventually stop. If she takes something of yours, just take something of hers and tell her you wont give it back to her unless she gives you what she took of yours, but do it in an adult manner, dont act like youre 5.

Answer 22

Well, your sister IS the one who started this controversy. She shouldn't have been breaking and stealing your stuff. Just try to ignore her or tell your parents about what she's doing.

Answer 23

well i wouldnt say either of u guys r the bad was its just that all siblings have fights and stuff . but that is kinda mean of ur sister to say stuff like that to u

Answer 24

you should be really nice to her.

and see what she does.

it works for me

Answer 25

you are both acting immature.

Answer 26

ok well what u need 2 do is show her ur the mature 1 here.  let her  know that doing this stuff will make bad consequences.  leave her alone.  or u know what get something from the store thats really, really cheap, and act like u love it soooooooo much.  then she will try 2 destroy it, and (buy a couple things like that, and do the same), and act like u dont care that she destroyed it.  just brush it off.

tell her that GOD will punish her 4 treating u like this and her future will b bad.  

(once, this happens she will stop cause its not bothering u any more, dont stoop down 2 her level.)

start hanging out with ur friends, and dont pay her any attention, she will b so nice 2 u, that u wont believe it.

good luck sweetie. im 15, no sister, a nice big brother 7 years older, but i have little cousins. lol.

Answer 27

one year isn't that big of a difference.

and I'm sure your not telling the whole story..

you probably do things to her as well....

Answer 28

your sis is one mean kid.

tell your parents to put her in therapy!