I Can't Stand My Mom. Please help!?

Question

I'm 11 years old and I'll admit I have a lot of freedom. Although I know I have earned it for showing my parents I can be responsible. So I'm not saying I have bad parents or anything.

But almost every day after work my mom will come in the door and right away she'll start yelling at me. It's mostly for no reason. Like maybe I forgot to do a small chore that she told me to do, and she'll let me have it. I try to stay quiet. Then she yells at me some more how she doesn't like how I'm dressed or she thinks that I should be more responsible.

Then my brother decides to walk down from the cave he calls a bedroom and sides with her so it's 2 against 1. Then I start yelling back because I can't just stand there and do nothing. It's too much.

Then she usually raises her hand to me and says that I deserve a good smack. She never does but then I get sent to my room.

I feel like I can't even talk to my mom anymore, so I have no one to go to for girl stuff.

What can I do to either help me ignore my mom or amke her stop yelling? Please help me!

Answer 1

How about your grandma? Can she help?

If you are going to be sent to your room anyway, why not just go as soon as she starts yelling. That way you can avoid being shouted at and the whole brother thing as well. Lock your door and refuse to talk to her until she can talk instead of shout.

You can also warn her that you will tell someone like a teacher if she doesn't stop threatening to hit you.

try little things to please your mum like making her coffee in bed, and picking flowers for her.

When your mum is smiley and happy one day, grab the chance to tell her how much you miss your girl time together, and how it makes you sad when she shouts, and how you feel sorry for her because you think she must have a lot of stress at work. Then give her a big cuddle.

You don't "deserve" a smack by the way. Nobody does,

Good luck darling, it aint easy!

EDIT: also go and see your guidance teacher, if you have one, and let her know whats happening.

Answer 2

You are lucky to have freedom at such a young age. My parents were so strict, and they did smack me! But years later, now i know why they did it. Your mom is prob just stressed out. Try helping her out more and let her know that you appreciate the freedom you have. Your at the age where she probably thinks she has to worry more. Just dont give her a reason to not trust you. Make sure you do help her out more that way she can know your doing your best and she will continue to trust you. Then at that point you can talk to her about whats been bothering you and ask her why does she react that way.  

Answer 3

tell your brother to stop being a d**k

Answer 4

write her a letter, tell her how you feel and why is she pouring out her frustrations on you like everything is your fault.

Answer 5

Your mom is stressed out.  You need to take care of your small chores, and you need to do extra to show her you want to pull your own weight and do your share.  Offer to carry something when she's got her hands full.  Offer to clean the kitchen before she tells you to clean it.  Try some good old fashioned kissing up.