I Feel Like My Parents Want Me To Be Ugly?

Question

I feel like my parents want me to be ugly. You see, I'm 14 and 4'11", and I'm always being picked on for how unattractive I am. I have yellowish teeth with these huge gaps in them, but my parents won't pay for braces or teeth whitening. They instead go and buy a boat. :/

I'm also 20 lb.s over weight, but my parents won't let me diet and keep feeding me all of this junk. They also won't buy me new clothes, let me wear makeup, dye my hair, or any of that jazz.

Sometimes I feel like they want me to be ugly. I'm tired of being ugly, but why don't my parents see that?

Answer 1

you can whiteners from Walmart from $10. Try to encourage your parents to buy healthier food. And there are some parents that won't buy their children makeup or let them dye their hair because they feel their children wii grow up too fast. I suggest you try looking for job to afford all the stuff you, but according to what you said, your parents seem selfish.  

Answer 2

they might just not want you to be attractive to any boys...?  

Answer 3

You can decide what food you want to eat and what you don't. You are old enough to make your own dinner if that would help (maybe even microwave dinners of healthy foods). No one is forcing you to eat "junk".

Do you get an allowance? You can find sales and buy clothes with your own money too.

Also, try a whitening toothpaste, like Rembrandt, it actually works.

Don't worry about make up or dying your hair yet.

Maybe sit down with your parents and talk about it. Tell them how yuo feel and that you want braces to fix your teeth. Many orthodontists have special payment plans.  

Answer 4

maybe they think that you're a kid, and you should worry about being a kid?

I don't remember even considering wearing makeup when i was 14.

You should show them your question. And point out to them NOW is the time to take care of your weight (before it gets worse or causes damage), and point out the fact that your teeth problems wont go away as you grow older.

Answer 5

braces and teeth whitening are both very very expensive, they probably can't afford it. New clothes are expensive and you are too young for make up and hair dye. You are probably over reacting, everyone feels ugly at your age. If you are really overweight then stop eating the junk food.

Answer 6

g0 live with an0there relative......

Answer 7

it sounds like you also have some self esteem issues too though... buying new clothes, wearing make-up, dying your hair and teeth whitening are not necessities and you dont need them be beautiful you also dont need to lose weight unless it is a health concern and are you overweight by your standards or doctors?

Answer 8

ok, i think at 14 your old enough to make your own food decisions. i also think that they might be worried about what could be coming in a couple years with you going into high school and puberty. if you want to loose weight safely start walking, start about half a mile for a week or two then step it up 1/4 mile every week until your comfortable with how far you are walking. that is after you talk to you doctor and make sure there isn't any reason you shouldn't be walking. get into an after school activity that you don't have to rely on them for and that will help boost your health and self esteem as well.

the other thing i would do is take the parent i am closest to being mom or dad and sit them down alone and tell them exactly what you are feeling and why, calmly and respectfully. that will help the trust issue i feel is hurting your relationship with your parents.

i hope this helps honey and good luck.  

Answer 9

maybe they think ur to young and if they give u that stuff it give u confidence to have bigger things ur not ready for

Answer 10

You should try to sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel. Tell them that your self esteem is dropping because you feel that they don't care. Also just say "Look. I am 14 years old. I think that I am old enough to try to at least make myself look good and make myself happy. I'm going to be going out on my own in 4 more years so can't I just be happy during them?" But most of all...just BE HONEST!

Answer 11

I think your parents are retarded.

Answer 12

Have you told your parents how you feel? Tell them you would like braces so your teeth will be straight, and teeth whitening, brush your teeth more (gets some whitening toothpaste) and stay away from coffee, soda, etc, the weight thing...just cut back on your portion size, dieting isnt only about eating healthy food, its about portion control, you can eat the same thing but cut your normal portion size in half, makeup, ask if you can just start out with some lip gloss, mascara and concealer and then maybe they will eventually let you start wearing more makeup and new clothes arent really a necessity as long as your other clothes arent too small and i wasnt allowed to color my hair until i was about 16 or 17 so thats kind of up to each individual person and so is when a child is allowed to wear makeup...you just need to sit down and talk with you parents

Answer 13

Your parents are stupid...sorry to say that, but it's true. Go ahead and do what you can do to make yourself feel better...don't let them dictate your life because later on in your life, they will think that they can do it still...

Answer 14

Maybe your parents don't want you to be dating so quickly so they don't want the guys to like you....

IDK.

I would sit down with your mother, and tell her that you get made fun of in school for your looks.  I would tell her how it is really decreasing your confidence.

When I was younger, kids made fun of me because they said I looked like a vampire.  My skin is so white, and my hair is so dark, and I would come home in tears.  My mother always told me, "Confidence is beauty." and I never believed her until a few years ago.

You see those "popular" girls at school,

they think they're beautiful, they think they're the best thing since sliced bread.  

I forgot to add-

Jennifer Aniston was hideous when she was younger!  Now she is one of the most talked about hollywood celebrities!  Everyone at your age goes through a stage of feeling "ugly".

Watch-- You'll become a model and all those kids that made fun of you in middle school's jaws will be wide open.

Answer 15

You should tell them exactly what you wrote here.

Answer 16

What kind of parents want their kid to feel bad about themselves? Don't eat the junk, start exercising, and try putting baking soda on your teeth to whiten them. As The way you described them, they probably don't want boys to notice you, but they don't realize that you are not happy with yourself.

Answer 17

ask them whats up.

and don't eat all there food.

your fourteen, go get a job.

at first just focus on loosing weight.

so buy healthier foods.

then buy some new clothes for your new figure.

buy some whitener for your teeth.

Answer 18

Yea, I really do think you should let them see what you wrote here.

Answer 19

well the dieting part isnt just about looks, they need to let you diet if your overwright for health reasons!!!  

Answer 20

Beauty means more coming from the inside not the outside.

There are a lot of whitening products you can buy over the counter. When my whitening products from my dentist became too expensive I switched to crest strips that work just as well, maybe ypu can save you own money and get those. Sorry I can't suggest something for the gaps.

You need to let your parents know that you are overweight and that it is a health issue. If they still won't help you eat better, try only eating portions of what they provide for you instead of the whole thing. When you eat out with people other than your parents order healthier meals. and workout. do a few sit ups before bed take long walks or ride your bike.

don't worry about material stuff like clothes and make up you can be beautiful without them. You can even start new trends have have the popular kids following your look.

I'm pretty sure your parents don't want you to be ugly. Maybe the just don't want you to get crazy about how the world wants you to look. Maybe they are just trying to get you to realize your inner beauty and how you don't need all that commercial stuff.

And all the kids that pick on you only do it because they want you to be as miserable as them. on the outside they look perfectly fine, but on the inside they have issues to work out.

Answer 21

ur parents r retarted

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