I Feel Really Fat and Not Very Confident?

Question

Alright, well, I'm at a summer music camp and we have a week to put together a broadway-like musical. Each year we do a great job, particularly in the choreography.

I'm in the choreography group this year and all the girls in my group are happy, preppy, annoying cheerleaders that are skinny as sticks. They're mostly in eighth grade while I'm in seventh. When I'm around them, I can't help but feel weird and fat. I'm about 4'11" and I'm really not sure how much I weigh...maybe like 100 pounds give or take a pound? Well, anyway, any tip[s on how to make me feel more confident around this group of girls? And it's not even like they're nice-- they're all cliquey and it hurts me because I only have one or two friends in a group of 15 girls!

Let me tell you something, though. I'm a born leader and very easy going. I dress sort of in the emo/punk/skater fashion but I'm not depressed most of the time. I'm pretty picky about friends, but I do try and make friends with everyone. I tried being nice and friendly to these girls, but they act as if I'm too young for them and not worth their time.

Answer 1

you're find with your age, and weight. Why would you want to be another stick if you do not like the way they look?

Answer 2

i have the same thing. Except im in 8th grade. When people make fun of you or anything just laugh about it when i do that it helps me. If your really uptight about your apperance dont dress goth/punk/skater, no one likes a goth girl so change your appearance.

Answer 3

Hey girl - I know how you feel. I've always felt like the odd one out in groups like that simply because I've always gotten along with guys more than girls. You really do sound like me when I was a bit younger. Here's the best advice that I can think of right now: If you really do want to improve your relationships with some of these girls, try to open up more to the ones who AREN'T as judgemental or "cliquey". It's not worth sacrificing who you are to impress someone and quite frankly THEY just aren't worth it and have a lot of growing up to do. You sound very mature for your age, and maybe you're just past the point that they are. If there are any girls who really do seem nicer, just try talking more to them - you don't have to change who you are, but rather open up and see if there's anything you have in common. I know it can be difficult to make friends with people you've been around for a while and HAVEN'T been friends with, but it IS possible. I'm sorry if I'm not much help, but I don't think YOU'RE doing anything wrong. If you do try getting closer to them and they just block you out, then you know that they definitely aren't worth your time. You sound like a great girl and they're just too blinded by image to see that.