I HATE MY DAD,BUT SHOULD I FORGIVE HIM (VOL 2) READ THEN ANSWER

Question

its a long story to start off my dad never wanted kids me and my brother knew that from square one.my dad and my mam got divorced when i was only 8 he seemed never to care about me or my brother then a later on he maried again to a horrible witch named joshaphine and she hated me and conveinced my dad that i had to go so went and stayed with my mum who i get along with just fine a few moths later i visited my dad he said he was sorry but i knew he wasn't then josaphine saw i was back in the picture and did every possible thing to annoy me she called members of my family horrible things she pulled my hair hit me and when i was sitting down at the table she would pour water on me when my dad wasn't looking when i told him about everything she did to me he said "well she probaly meant well" as the months went on my dad and i grew futher and futher apart every night i stayed with him i would end up going home to my mam until i said i cant take i and i haven't seen my dad for 8 months

Answer 1

I feel so bad for you.

It seems that your dad hasn't been there the way he should have. He might be a bit clueless on how to act. We're all human after all. I'm just guessing here, I don't know your dad at all, you do.

I get the feeling he hurt you so bad you don't know wether you'll ever forgive him for what happened. It may sound like a cliche, but take your time, live your life and don't let the bad stuff get to you.

Maybe you could talk to your mom about your feelings or another relative you trust and who has never let you down. Ever thought of meeting somewhere with your dad and have a serious conversation about what happened and how it affected you and your brother? A lot of times parents do things without thinking: "how will my child feel about this..." If your dad is sincere about wanting your forgiveness, it shouldn't be too much trouble for him to listen to your grievances.

You are not obligated to forgive him, or to forget. Just don't get stuck in hating him either. You need all that precious energy to live your life.

It probably sounds corny, but you are his daughter, you're supposed to be the most precious thing in his life. If he cant' treat like you're the most precious thing in his life, that's really his loss.

May the Gods protect you.