I HATE my mom, it is my fault but it is getting involved with other parts of my life. HELP ?

Question

So, I'm a teenager. I have had problems with my mom for like my whole life. She is getting me SO SO SO stressed out in the morning before school and after school.

I can't focus. I am doing worse in school b/c I am so sidetracked, and am always mad at her. I am not taking it out on my boyfriend but i just get so mad, and i act differently, especially in the mornings before school.

How can I get a better relationship and grades when I am so mad at can't think straight?

I just get mad at her ALL the time, we have never really had a 'normal' relationship ( parents divorced, were just so different )

Answer 1

I went through the exact same stage.  She is your mother, find a system that works for the both of you.  Find something you both enjoy and start with that.  You DONT HATE your mom, you just dont like the rules, and chores and such.  Focus more on your acedimics and let her know she needs to be more chill because your grades are suffering.  Be honest with her and talk to her like an adult not her 14yr old teenager who hates the world.  Oh, and your boyfriend that shouldnt even be an issue at 14.   you will have 10 more before you really find "Mr. Right"  at 14 the only thing you have is "Mr. Right Now" no matter what moms are always right and you prob. wont see that until you are about 25, but thats ok, and make sure she knows that also.

Answer 2

My mom is the same EXACT way. They dont realize that they are mentally scaring us,with what they do.

But what I have learned to do is just to agree with everything she says,even if you dont like it. Keep in mind,this doesnt mean that you really have to agree or do what she is telling you,but it will get her off your back.

Another thing I do is just to try and stay away from her as much as possible in the mornings,and just text a friend or listen to music,while getting ready.This way your mind will already be off of her or anything you are mad at her about.

Try not to say anything mean to her,even if she b*tches at you about something,just say ok,and walk away.

The last thing I know to do is just kill her with kindness,she will have no excuse to be mean after that.Tell her you love her(even if you dont),and she will just feel so bad if she even tries to say something mean to you.

hope I could help :D

Answer 3

I went throe this with my 3 daughters. Your Mom most likely has a lot on her plate so have some consideration for her as will. To get flies you must have honey. That means that if you try to be understanding and let her see that you can think like an adult you will get her attention. Just love her for loving you and you come out the winner

Answer 4

talk to her or say ur stressing me out or talk to a school conusuler that works for me or just trying sitting down with your mom and talk about your promblems if u need anymore help or advice message me at [e-mail] good luck ^_^

Answer 5

kill with kindness ur mom is jus buttin into ur life bcuz she cares bout u but i no ur gettin older and u wanna start makeing ur own descisions but osmetimes parents need to get involved. Everyone has those kinda days. When u get out the house  listen to some awesome music and take deep breaths hope i helped =)