I Hate Myself So much! How can I stop?

Question

Everyone tells me how pretty, and talented, and amazing I am all the time! But I can't see it! I just completely HATE myself! Other people don't like me either. I want to die :-(

How do I stop the self hatred? :-(

Answer 1

Therapy =/ I guess.

Just try to look on the bright side of things, I know it's not easy. But you have to try anything and everything. You'll be okay =)

Try to be optimistic and soon you'll find yourself to be better :) For examle it's raining and you have to walk home in the rain. Think of the rain, as a poem states "Let the rain kiss you." Don't worry about it, and move on. When you wake up see the sun. Be happy your not being slaughtered painfully right at the moment o_O Just look on the bright side:) It will get better.

Xx

Answer 2

3 things helped me:

-Religion

-Therapy

-Drugs (of the OTC variety)

Answer 3

listen to music that motivates you, music has helped so many peoples lives to making them feel good and more confident. find a few songs that really make you feel better and listen to them everytime you feel down, or before youre supposed to go somewhere where you have to talk to a bunch of people.

find some role models, whether its musicians, actors-someone that you wish you were more like and read some interviews of them and find some quote that inspires you that is about confidence or something and tape it somewhere where you will see it. find a bunch of quotes and do the same thing. post it somewhere where you will always see it before you leave your house.

and tlak to those who tell you that youre amazing about your insecurities and im sure they can help boost your confidence.  

Answer 4

It is just something you just slowly get out of.

Do you feel like you can't really live up to their expectations? Thats how I feel.

This is kind of dorky but when I dont think I'm looking really good, I go to the bathroom, look in the mirror and flirt with myself. It just makes me feel better. It's me, I'm making myself laugh which is making me feel better.

Try it.

Answer 5

Well, when you have self hatred as the deepest belief in your soul, other people's compliments, no matter how true don't register, they just get kicked right out again.

This issue is actually something you need to work on, because no one else can make you feel anything.....and it is hard for others to love you properly when you won't accept that they do. It is very hard to feel it.

If you can't like yourself, how can others?

When I struggled with this, I had to come to the conclusion that God loves me, and others tell you that, but if it is the Truth, then you have to dwell on that. And allow yourself to know it....dispute the feelings and allow the truth to teach you a new way of thinking about yourself.

Who else do you know of that would die for you, and be totally in love with you just the way you are??

If he has accepted you, then who are you to reject yourself?

All the best darling, it is a very hard bridge to cross, but when you do you'll be so much better off.

And remember, our parents are not perfect, and when we realise they are broken too, we'll realise that their treatment of us is saying more about them than ourselves.

Mel

Answer 6

O_o Are you the Jen from THA? Okay, sorry that was completely random and uncalled for, just thought I recognized your name.

Well as for you question, well that just leads back to the simple fact hat money, beauty, and popularity doesn't bring happiness. You have to learn to love yourself, for who you are, and not give much thought as to anything else. Well if everyone tells you your pretty, talented, and amazing then you must be, so there's obviously something within yourself that you feel is telling you otherwise. And as for that, only you can decide how to manage it. Take a while to think about WHY you hate yourself, I'm sure you've already given that much thought but take an hour or two if necessary to just contemplate why you feel this why. Hopefully you can come to the conclusion of what causes it, maybe some doubt you have or something. Once you know just have at it, just like someone who thinks there hideous, the best why for that person to help there self is to tell themselves everyday that there beautiful. And eventually they began to love them self for who they are, the same for you once you figure out oh to tackle whats keeping you from loving yourself.

Answer 7

you kind of have to have a FUDGE everyone else attitude I cant change my self and dont want 2 you have to like yourself or else how can anyone else like you.

Dont be so hard on yourself

Answer 8

think of the good stuff you've done for the world

Answer 9

well what i do is not tink about it...

cuz when i start thinking about it i think about it to much....

people tell me all the time that i pretty and talented but i hate it so much cuz i kno i not and then yea......

just dont think about like i said 4 times.

Answer 10

get a job and stop worring so much about it already. Geesh!

Answer 11

Your brain is starving for nutrition!  You sound like your stress hormones (Cortisol) are all over the chart!  You need to start drinking lots of water, whole grains, fruit and veg, good oils ( flax oil, coconut oil for cooking, olive oil, seeds and fresh nuts.)  Protein especially in the morning, EGGS!) but maintain a healthy proportion of chicken, fish and red meat and of course your dairy products!  

Health starts from within so start feeding your brain with Omega 3 and Zinc and Magnesium (I believe Magnesium helps to settle the brain!)  By doing so you will feel better and then you can concentrate on the social side of your life.  But I guarantee you once you start to feel better about yourself with the energy and brain power you accumulate from a healthy diet I believe you will feel more confident in yourself and the company you keep!  

Start detoxifying your body (Green tea - no caffeine! and grape seed extract) and start balancing your diet and you should find you will take on each day with a new thinking because your brain isn't starving for nutrition anymore!  Water, water and more water!  Your brain needs these wonderful healthy snacks and beverages to keep thinking right and keep your energy levels up.

Lastly, you cannot expect everyone to like you but stop focusing on what others say and think and start focusing on what you think and if you believe you need to re-evaluate the way you act then I truly believe it does start from within!  Stay away from the junk food and the rest of the rubbish that leads to in my opinion these feelings of despair.  Take a good look at yourself, there is only one of you!  Enjoy yourself and your body!!!  

Start the self healing now!  

Answer 12

Don't be so self focused. Pick something that you don't like about yourself & make a goal to change it. Then pick another and do it again. Of course there are some things you cannot change but these are probably the things that people like about you!

Answer 13

Think about all thing that you find good about you. Dont worry about what other ppl have to say.  

Answer 14

you are loved so much by a loving God who died for you. Jesus is the only one who will love you unconditionally know matter what you do. Hope this helps you