I Have Too Many Friend Problems, Help me with them?

Question

I just think I may be jealous. But, please just tell me how to get through them.

1. All my best friends are in Advanced ILA together this coming school year, I need to be in it, but I'm not. I got high scores in the state tests, but I'm just not. I'll admit it, I'm a jealous person, but I don't like having my friends talk about funny things that happened in that class when I wasn't there in front of me. It annoys me. Anything to get through it?

2. My 2 best friends had this journal of things they passed around with them this last school year, and they won't tell me what was in it. I'm afraid to wonder what there is in there. Again, I'm a jealous person, but I'm really not too sure if I want to be there friends. Drop them? Or drop one, because one of them is actually pretty nice to me without one.

3. How to be a nicer person? I was talked behind my back badly during 6th grade and I want to make sure that I'm a really better person this school year. Help with this?

4. I love my friends, but I want to hang out more with the theater people. Not like the people who are in not many of the plays at school or in none at all. (which is most of my friends.) Like, the people who get into all the shows. Right choice? (if you don't get it, I'll add extra details on this one. It's confusing, I understand.)

Please, no answers like, "You're just jealous. Go to a Not-Jealous School" or something stupid like that. I will report it. I want to make my last year in middle school the best years of my life. :) Thanks for the help.

Answer 1

Well you already know that you are jealous and that is not getting you anywhere.  You nedd to focus on yourself more and not so much on what your friends are doing.  You need to be responsible for yourself.  You can be friends with the two friends you already have, you just need to stop and just apprecaite the friendship you have with them not what they "have" that you don't have.  You shouldn't compare yourself so much to others.  Find your own path.  If that is to hang out with more people in the theatre then do so.  You can never have enough friends.  Maybe being involved in the theater is your calling.  As far as being a better person?  That is up to you.  You have to make that decision and you already know what you have to do to make those changes in your life.  No one can tell you who you should hang out with and if it is the right choice for you or not because I don't know you.  I think you should make as many fiends as you can this year because you will need every one of those relationships next year when you advance to high school because you whole world will change then and it will be good to know you have built relationships with all kinds of people with different personalitys.  Just focus on you.  You have a lot of work ahead of you but you will get there.  It is just a part of growing up.  You are maturing or you wouldn't be feeling this way, but the whole jealousy thing has to cease.