I Have a Bad relationship with a parent?

Question

i have a strained relationship with my dad and i'm really depressed and i try to help him out but he just yells at me and i yell at him and I'm starting to feel like he thinks that I'm a mistake

Answer 1

Yeah I'm kind of the same way.

I mean I love my dad, but he really does favor my sister more than me.

My dad called me "the annoying sister".

He spends way more time with my sister than me.

Whenever my sister and I argue he yells at ME everytime!

I even told my mom that I was upset because he always does that and she has noticed it even.

I think you should just love him because he is your father like I do.

Answer 2

I  don't  know  it's  difficult  because  is awkward  situation ,what can i say    

  

Even  if  he  yells  at  you ,must  to  be  calm , silently. ,maybe  he has had  many  troubles  lately,  i  am not sure  but  probable .

In  the  best  case  don't  grieve  your  parents  even  if  they  have this  attitude  before you  or  in  your  presence ,cause  in  fact  they have  love  for  you , be  sure  of  that  . Children  must  obey  their parents  in  all  respects . Because  now  or  more  later   we  have need  of  our  parents .

Answer 3

family therapy really works. it may sound kinda crazy but it does.

Answer 4

Well you can't say that you didn't try to be nice to him.Is there a reason of why your dad is mad at you?Did you do something that made him angry at you?Maybe you should consider asking him and see if you get a response.Maybe you should just sit down and talk with him.He might be under a lot of stress.I don't think that it is anything geared towards you personally unless you have did something that really hurt him.If you have or think you have,ask him to forgive you.Forgive him for yelling at you and snapping off at you like that.You must learn to say sorry to each other.He might be going through stress at work or something.I think this causes for a serious talk between the two of you.Maybe you could ask your mom if anything is wrong with him.Also,instead of yelling at him,just try to calm him down or walk away.You and him need time to cool down.Maybe you are just catching him at the wrong time when he is already mad or something.You're not a mistake and don't ever think that of yourself.You're special in a good way and you're unique.Your dad is just probably under pressure.Ask him if you have did anything wrong or something that offended him.Don't ask him at a bad time either.Just ask him when he is not busy.Don't yell at him instead talk to him.You might just feel better.Also,pray to GOD about this issue because I read your other question and you said that you are a christian.GOD can solve anything.I truly hope that I helped you in one way or another or gave you some useful or helpful advice or something.Give it some hope and don't give up.Talk to your dad and see the problem is or if he is mad at you or something.GOD BLESS!

Answer 5

I know exactly what you are going through. I'm having a problem somewhat similar. Here's something to consider: going to family therapy...or just therapy with your Dad. It helped a little bit when I went with my Dad last year, but since we only went for a few months, things sort of went back normal. If your Dad agrees to do this, then I highly suggest you do it a little longer than a few months so things can be secure in your relationship with him.

My Dad yells at me a lot just as well because of his stress from work. He takes it out on me and my Mom so stress levels spike through the roof whenever we yell at each other. If your Dad starts yelling at you, just do your best to bite your tongue and let him yell at you. It usually ends horribly when you get sucked into the fight. I'm not saying that you let him walk all over you, but let him just say what he has to say for a few seconds and then let it be done with. Yes, you will want to scream your freaking head off, but it'll eventually subside.

If you and your Mom want to go to meetings that help deal with how to speak to those who are irrational, you may do that. I'm so very sorry that you have this problem.

And remember, NO child is a mistake no matter what your Dad might think. In the eyes of God, every child was made for one reason or another.