I JUST wanna be FRIENDS!!!!?

Question

Okay, I am returning to an old high school after moving away for a year. i went to that high school for 2 years, then moved away for a year, and returned my senior year..before i moved, i was known bt not popular. i wasnt very pretty and i didnt have very many close friends and the boys pretty much made fun of me or ignored me.

bt now, two years later, im more mature, way prettier, and the same boys who ignored me then,are tryna get with me now. im not used to it at all so i dont know how to respond. i dont want a boyfriend, bt i really really want to have a lot of close guy friends. the problem is, when i try 2 talk 2 them as a friend[not flirting], they start tryna spit game and get my number. then they get mad that when they ask me questions like "so wats up with you and me?" i get sarcastic and i look irritated. then they just think that im a total b---- and stop talking to me completely.

i desperately want guy friends, bt i dont know how to get them to look at me as just a friend instead of a potential girlfriend. How do i respond when they try to spit game at me when im tryna be a friend without being rude?? help?!

Answer 1

just say you want to b friends and if they get disgusted dont let it bother u just ignore it

Answer 2

That happened to a friend of mine,she played along, found some guys that didn't want to hook up, just hang out. She looked at the guys that werent nerdy but that werent all over her all the time.Take it easy and dont pull up the first fish you catch,wait then you get a really nice catch.

Answer 3

Hmm. It sounds like the guys are really immature if they keep trying to make you their girlfriend instead of regular friend.

Are there other guys besides the ones that have talked to you so far? Try finding a quiet guy, they're more likely to be more sensitive to your feelings and less likely to immediately want to become your bf.

Otherwise, for the other guys who want to date you, tell them that you already have a boyfriend somewhere else, maybe. Or you can tell them that you're just not ready for a relationship and want to be friends instead. I would go for saying that you are already in a relationship, just so that they stop bugging you about it. This way you don't have to reject them flat out, either. Then you can establish a friendship with them instead of a relationship.

Answer 4

I don't mind that its long. If they don't want to be your friends first,and you do, then that's out on them. There are plenty of other of us girls out there who they can immediately be girlfriends with. The boy and girl both have to agree to be friends first. Not like the situation your in.