I Just Had My Second Baby....

Question

I Just Had My Second Baby boy and my first baby is almost 1 year old and when i'm breastfeeding my new born Ryan, My other son jacob keeps trying to grab my other breast and wants me to feed him too!

What Should i Do to make him understand that he needs to stop???

Answer 1

I understand how you feel my 3 y/o tried to do the exact same thing with my 5 month old daughter. It is your choice if you do not want to share breastfeeding with your 1 y/o but keep in mind that you are still well within your legal rights to breastfeed him as well. It might not be such a bad idea to begin breastfeeding him also, but if that just seems to uncomfortable, try another approach. Explain to your 1 y/o that because the new baby has no teeth this is his only source of food. Then touch your 1 y/o's teeth and explain that because he has teeth he can eat food like a big boy, just like mommy and daddy do. Then tell him that the baby will not need the milk for very long. This seemed to help my son and he took the news very well! Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Tell him just like he drinks milk so does the baby but the baby drinks milk from you and so did he when he was younger(if he did). If he says that he wants to drink milk from you tell him that big boys drink milk out of a cup and only baby's drink milk from mommy. Make it a big deal when he drinks milk. He is only looking for attention.  

Answer 3

How long ago did you stop nursing your oldest?  Why not just let him nurse?  My oldest seemed somewhat interested (he was 15 months when #2 was born), so I offered it.  As soon as he saw what was really going on- he didn't care.  What's it going to hurt if your oldest DOES nurse?

Whatever you do- do NOT punish him for asking.  That will just create even more resentment. If you're not interested in nursing him, then you'll need to create a diversion.  Sit down and read a book with him.  Offer him something that baby doesn't get.  Give him positive attention in other ways.  But whatever you do- do not do not do not punish him or give him negative attention.

Answer 4

If your other baby is only under a year you should be nursing both of them. YOu can, it'll make you loose tons of weight too. Just be sure to eat enough and drink plenty of water and other liquids.  

Answer 5

The doctors say you can nurse an older child and a baby at the same time. Your body will produce enough milk for the both of them. You will want to feed the baby first and then the older child second. But according to all the doctors I have talked to and the breastfeeding books I have read, all say the same, it is perfectly fine to continue to nurse an older child with a new born. Good luck. If you dont want to him to nurse then tell him that it is for babies to do and he is a big boy. Get him a special toy that he gets to play with, only when the baby is nursing. That way it keeps him distracted and happy.  

Answer 6

You should give him some once in a while =]

It will increase your supply because your body will assume it's the new baby eating all the food; your older son can use the health benefits too!

You don't have to feed him all the time (of course!) .. just every once in a while so he doesn't feel left out.

Answer 7

I fed both of mine at the same time and produced so much milk that I thought I was drowning. My shirts stayed wet and soaked up the pads. Tandem breastfeeding is a great way to keep the milk produce at a surplus, plus it saves you money on milk. However if you want him to stop just give him a bottle. That is what I did when I didn't want the older baby to breast feed. I breast fed him until he was 15 months old. I know many will say that is too old, but I did it.  

Answer 8

Sit down with him and explain that he is a big brother now, and that he doesn't need to do that anymore, it's for little babies only.  

Then, when you go to breastfeed, either:

1. I've heard many people talk about how when they had to feed their newborn, the older child is jealous.  The best idea I've heard so far is get settled on the couch with baby, and ask your older child to bring a book.  Sit down together and read a book - you get quality time with your big brother/sister, as well as the baby fed!  If you enforce it a few times, it becomes a routine and a positive, relaxing time for everyone!

2. Offer him a small "big-boy" snack.. although this wouldn't be my first choice because then he'll likely think that he gets to eat whenever your baby eats - but if you have no other choice, it won't hurt a few times.

3. If neither of the above work, explain to him one last time that that's not acceptable behavior, and if he doesn't start to behave then they'll be consequences.  If after that he does it again, sit in time out for 1 minute. ( 1 minute for each year your child is old works great).  It sounds a little harsh, but he is likely still used to being the only child - he needs to learn that unfortunately, it's not "all about him" anymore, and he needs to share his Mommy.

Good Luck!