I LOVE MY WIFE BUT AM I SUFFOCATING HER ??

Question

I LOVE MY WIFE MORE THAN ANYTHING RECENTLY WE HAVE BEEN HAVING PROBLEMS AND I FEEL LIKE SHE JUST LOST ALL INTEREST IN ME SHE SAYS I'M JUST SUFFOCATING HER BECAUSE I ALWAYS WANT A HUG A KISS OR AT THE VERY LEAST TO HOLD HER HAND AT THE BEGINNING SHE USE TO BE THE ONE HOLDING MY HAND KISSING ME AND THIS ALL CHANGE SUDDENLY IN ONE MONTH ALL I GET IS NO I'M HOT GET OFF OR DO I HAVE TO BE ALL OVER YOU EVERY SECOND

I'VE TOLD HER HOW I FEEL BUT I CANT JUST SAY IT WITH OUT CRYING AND THAT PISSES HER OFF MORE AND SHE JUST STARTS YELLING IVE NEVER BEEN SO EMOTIONAL UNTIL NOW BUT AS THE DAYS GO BY SHE GETS MORE DISTANT AM I WRONG FOR WANTING THE EFFECTION WE ALWAYS HAD IS GETTING TO OUR INTAMATE LIFE

Answer 1

We women are tricky to figure out.  One minute we are wanting to be snuggled and protected, and the next we want to be self-reliant and alone.  Unfortunately its the man's job to figure out who they are dealing with at the moment.

Give her some space.  Do nice things for her without pointing them out or without expecting loving.  Listen to the song "Her Majesty" by the Beatles, it explains a lot.  

Answer 2

i think you should really try to stop making yourself sound so good!! and tell people how you accuse her for doing things 247 and even think you can read her mind!!! when your wrong and she does give you alot of effection you just need more than she can give you sometimes!

Answer 3

Sounds like she is fickle and that something is going on more than she cares to say. I suggest marriage counseling if she can't work this out on her end. I would also be leary in this sudden change of another man.  

Answer 4

I'm sorry about your situation. It must be really hard.  Hmm, maybe you should give her space, don't touch her for awhile and hopefully she'll end up missing you and "come back." Maybe, shes going through a "phase" or something. I'm not really sure but if it doesn't get better, try talking to her one more time (try not to cry) and if she won't listen or talk...I'm sorry but maybe its a divorce. Or just spend a month away for each other.

Don't rely solely on what I said either please.

Answer 5

Sounds like something else is going on with her. Either she isn't feeling very well, is tired from over work, or is bored from no work or something.

Step back and read her mood before you latch onto her. If she appears tense then touch her with a smile and keep your distance.

Be nice not needy. Its a big turn off to have a man cry, unless someone has died or they are tears of joy.

Be a man she fell in love with, what has changed in you? Be confident  and self assured, be a man she can admire and look up to.

And give her some space, you can be close without being on top of her.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Yes, you are suffocating her.  Give her some space.  Respect her. Do not go off the emotional deep end.

Answer 7

Those who wish to enjoy a happy marriage show respect for their mates by “keeping an eye, not in personal interest upon just [their] own matters, but also in personal interest upon those of [their mates].” (Philippians 2:4) They do not consider what is good only for themselves—which would be selfish. Instead, they consider what is best also for their mates. Indeed, they give that the priority.

Respect will help marriage partners to acknowledge differences in viewpoint. It is not reasonable to expect two people to have identical

views on everything. What may be important to a husband may not be as important to a wife, and what a wife likes may not be what a husband likes.

Many find it difficult to remain calm when they discuss hurt feelings, misunderstandings, or personal failings. Instead of straightforwardly saying: “I feel misunderstood,” a spouse may get emotional and exaggerate the problem. Many will say: “You only care for yourself,” or, “You don’t love me.” Not wanting to get involved in an argument, the other spouse may refuse to respond.

A better course to follow is to heed the Bible’s counsel: “Be wrathful, and yet do not sin; let the sun not set with you in a provoked state.” (Ephesians 4:26) We will not to go to sleep without settling differences, no matter how minor they may have been.

the Bible commands married Christians: “Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3) Notice that the emphasis is on giving —not on demanding. Physical intimacy in marriage is truly satisfying only if each partner is concerned about the good of the other. For example, the Bible commands husbands to deal with their wives “according to knowledge.” (1 Peter 3:7) This is particularly true in giving and receiving the marriage due. If a wife is not treated tenderly, she may find it difficult to enjoy this aspect of marriage.

There are times when marriage mates may have to deprive each other of the marriage due. This might be true of the wife at certain times of the month or when she is feeling very tired. (Compare Leviticus 18:19.) It may be true of the husband when he is dealing with a serious problem at work and feels emotionally drained. Such cases of temporary suspension of rendering the marriage due are best handled if both partners frankly discuss the situation and agree by “mutual consent.” (1 Corinthians 7:5) This will prevent either partner from jumping to wrong conclusions. If, though, a wife willfully deprives her husband or if a husband deliberately fails to render the marriage due in a loving way, the partner may be left open to temptation. In such a situation, problems may arise in a marriage.

Most of this is from A book based on the Bible i'll e-mail you the chapter if you want.

I've been married over 30 years and it has really helped us.

Answer 8

Maybe she just needs some space.  Sometimes I need physical space for myself and it has nothing to do with something my husband has or has not done.  Just abide by her wishes for a little bit and most likely she will come back around.  This is all assuming nothing else major has changed...

Answer 9

How old is you wife is it possible she is going threw menopause. If so they have pills for that. Don't be fooled menopause can happen at younger ages than most people think. That is probably why she is hot menopause does that. Look it up see if she fits the other symptoms she may not even know she is going threw it. It makes women cranky.

Answer 10

something changed one month ago and you should find out what it is. job stress? health issues? another man? best to find out NOW

Answer 11

Your not wrong for wanting affection.

Its HUMAN.

Thats weird that your wife is doing that..

Usually its US that wants the guys to be affectionate.

Maybe there is something going on with her, that she is afraid to tell you?

Answer 12

There's more to this than meets the eye.  Usually wives crave the attention and affection and complain they never get their due.  You need to do a little digging and sit her down across the table from you and find out point-by-point what's going on that made her change so radically. If she feels she is being stifled by something, then if it's reasonable to correct, promise you'll work hard at it.  If it's more freedom she needs, then discuss what is possible for her to achieve and still keep a happy home.  

Answer 13

For starters you can stop crying every time your wife doesn't give you attention.

I know some women claim they like "emotional men," but that is load of BS.

Its hard for most women to respect emasculated men who are constantly weepy and your crying when you don't the attention you want has probably gotten her to lose some respect.

Answer 14

stop it   or you will lose her .    you don't need all that affection to be a man.   give her space.  let her come to you when the need arises

Answer 15

Something is missing and you need to find out what it is...

She should appreciate that she is married to man who is compassionate so, you need to sit her down (without crying) and explain that you want your relationship back to like it used to be. Ask what you can BOTH do to make it work.

Good luck.

Answer 16

Three things you need to do.

Learn to use lower case letters.

Learn punctuation.

Tell you don't want the romance to die.