I Met a really cool guy a few weeks ago. But he's unavailable. what should i do?

Question

I Met a really cool guy a few weeks ago while running errands. The next day he told me he was married. We text each other often and we talk about his wife and kids as well as everything else. Nothing sexual. He knows that I like him and he says that if he were not married he could see us together. But he hasnt stopped communicating with me. Its like he still wants to be friends even though he has a wife and kids. I would want to be friends even though I know its not totally right

Answer 1

Would you be comfortable if you were married and your husband were doing the same thing?  If not, you need to drop him.  If you do continue to communicate with him you should never advance the relationship beyond what it is.  If conversations become flirty or suggestive you need to back out altogether.  You don't want to have the fact that you've been the "other woman" contributing to issues between a husband and wife on your conscience later.

Answer 2

Don't be a home wrecker. That sounds like a bad situation. You win some you lose some. Don't keep talking to this guy anymore.

Answer 3

He is not available! First of all you need to accept that fact that he is married. Then you need to look for someone not married. And if you had not have given him your number in the first place then he would not be texting you. Question? Would you think he was still cool if he were your husband and doing this to you with someone else? I think not and that is exactly what he would do too.

Answer 4

MOve on

Answer 5

You need to stay out of his life. Your temptation could lead to something worse. You don't want to be responsible for hurting his marriage or relationship with his kids.  

Answer 6

Leave him alone...that sounds like trouble.  Put yourself in his wife's position....if you were married and your husband was doing this, how would you feel?  I would be crushed if my hubby was carrying on like this.   Just stop communicating with the guy.  Tell him that you just don't think it is right.

Answer 7

just stay frirends with him.. its no big deal.. to have married man in your life..

I meet so many  married men like that.. just keep as friends and distance..  LOL

Answer 8

Oh come on, just stay away from him.

It's people like you who ruin families.  

Answer 9

your on the edge of starting an affair... does his wife knwo you chat and text..is it really just friends if he could "see you together" ?

RUN FOR THE HILLS... he has kids... I'm sure he's lovely but once a cheat always a cheat...try find someone single... tough to forget him but cut it off...tell him why and stop texting.....in a few long weeks you'll be getting over him....

Answer 10

i wouldn't be friends with him. hes married with kids! you will ruin his family relationship. and don't believe everything he says < experience.

Answer 11

Run as fast as you can! He is not available and you are wasting your time.

Answer 12

For one minute I would like you to be in this man's wife's shoes.  While you are working today, doing all the things you know you are obligated to do to care for yourself and others, think of your own husband pleasuring himself with another woman's flirting and talking about you behind your back.  If you can imagine for one minute being this man's wife, would you respect him and be attracted to him?

It doesn't matter that you have not had physical relations, you are tempting yourself with him and it's wrong and damaging his relationship with his wife and children.  Can you be accountable and responsible for the security of his children needing a mother and father's support? When you have children of your own, should your children be exposed to another woman pleasuring herself with your children's father.  When this man's children begin to cry because their Mommy discovered her husband is cheating on her are you prepared for the consequences of little children hating you for your behavior? You are a teacher a mentor to all children.

These issues are the reality of your own behavior.  No doubt this guy is also responsible but is this the quality of a man that you would expose yourself and your own children to?  If he is so easily tempted, where is the trust and value in the relationship that is meaningful to all relationships?  

The fact that you have written this post, tells me that you do know the difference between right and wrong, that you question your own moral behavior, that what is happening is harmful or not?  I trust that you already know the answer and will do the right thing immediately to mend your own self worth and relieve yourself of guilt for the family that you are harming.  You'll feel much healthier in a relationship that offers you freedom to exercise your own emotional needs with a man that is honorable, trusting and can offer his Love at no cost to others.  

Our society needs strong men and women, you are being challenged with temptations that are building your own character and integrity and only you can decide "what value means to you".  When we are alone with ourselves at the end of the day, shouldn't we all desire peace of mind, that we did our very best and did not surrender our values?  Each one of us are challenged daily and must act with good will, being true to ourselves with faith that it is in all of our best interests as a society.

Peac Be Still