I NEED HELP, please pray for me.

Question

MY DAUGHTER IS 15 MONTHS.

IM 25. JUST ME AND HER LIVE IN OUR HOME, I WORK FULL TIME,HER DAD IS IN AND OUT BECAUSE OF HIS WAYS.

MY MOM WATCHES HER, WHILE I WORK, TOMORROW THOUGH MY MOM WILL BE OUT OF TOWN FOR 15 DAYS.

LATELY, MY DAUGHTER, HAS BEEN FRUSTRATING ME!

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!

I CANT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT HER WANTING TO BE AT MY SIDE! EX: TAKE A SHOWER, COOK, ETC.

ANYTHING.

IM SAD AND I WANT TO CRY WITH WHAT IM ABOUT TO SAY,.

LAST NIGHT I WAS CUTTING UP FRUIT, AND OUT OF FRUSTRATION CAUSE SHE WOULDNT STOP CRYING, I GRABBED HER HEAD AND, JUST MOTIONED WITH THE KNIFE,

BUT IN MY HEAD, HONESTLYHONESTLYHONESTLYHONESTLYHONESTLY... IN MY HEART, I WOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT, NOT IN MY RIGHT MIND, ITS JUST THAT THERE ARE STORIES ABOUT how men and women injure their kids, and later i vision myself doing the same.? wtf! my daughter is my heartbeat, i dont want to hurt her, but i dont know what to do, with the people that help me with her going out of town for two weeks, its like, what am i going to do?

do i talk to her dad about it? he's a little immature on the side that he wont grow up and stop cheating,

but he can be mature when it comes to the sake of his daughter, however, i dont want him to later on in life if it ever comes up i dont want him to use that against me.

im looking into maybe counceling, but i dont want them to take my daugther away,

i know my anger comes from the fact that i feel so alone, and im raising her alone, i didnt ask for this adn she doesnt deserve this, but i dont want to hurt her, my heart feels as though i would never hurt her, but sometimes i just want to crawl somewhere adn just , i dont know.

what do i do?

also for the councelors, what scares me, is on the news, when a mother does something ridiculous to their child, it comes up that they were on so many pills, i dont want pills,

i just want prayer!!!

please, i dont want to lose my daughter, i just want these thoughts to GO AWAY!

Answer 1

Why was this in Preteens and Teens?  Anyways

It's obvious that you would never hurt your child, but sometimes, you know, you just overload and do things you would never do in your right mind.  we all know what you're talking about.

I think you already know what your problem is... when you said that you're raising her alone.  are there any groups you can join (not counceling groups) in your community, like a daycare or a parent-child thing?  You would be able to meet other moms and talk to them more freely than you would with your child's father.

Answer 2

Please understand that all moms get just as frustrated as you were.  I used to come home from work and try to change my clothes, cook and take care of my little boy.  He whinnied, cried and wanted for me to hold him.  He didn't want me to put him down and I was very stressed.  

I finally did something that helped very much.  I gave him a bath.  It was just that simple.  I took ten minutes and bathed him.  Then, he was refreshed and would let me do the things that I needed to do.

Taking care of children is a hard job.  When she gets a little bit older, it will be easier.  

I am praying for you and your child.  

I don't like your avatar name.  God calls you His beloved.

You are submitting to God and you are not holding on to pride because you are asking other Christians for prayer and help.  Now, rely on God to calm you and cause you to be a patient and kind mom.  

Please talk to your little girl's dad about helping out with raising her (not about the incident).  If he isn't interested in helping and wants to run around and be immature then, he needs to be paying child support and you do not need him in your lives.  God bless.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh.. im so sorry of course i'll pray for you, the good thinis that you didnt do anything drastic. the thought of it would come up in any young mothers head, its ok. counseling is always good but u need to drop the dad. hez not going to do anything for you. if someone prescribez pills then take them but remeber pillz have side affectz be carefull. i wish the best of luck to you and your daughter :]

Answer 4

I don't know where you live, but you need counseling. Is there a church where you can go to to talk to a minister, that would be a good start. As a single parent I had frustrating moments. Sometimes you need a break. Maybe you can get your daughter to entertain herself for a short time. I am sure she just wants to be by you, and is interested in what you do. Maybe you can help to "train" her in what you are doing, like teaching  her.  I don't think I would tell her father.

I pray that you get the help you need and that God will give you patience, and all will be well, as you will not do anything that would injure your daughter.

†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†

Answer 5

i will pray for you right now. You should pray and if you have already, pray again. Everyone gets frustrated some times. Ask God to give you guidancem, patience and understanding, to help you through your rough times.  

Answer 6

I know how it is to get frustrated.  You need to try to relax.  You have to realize that even though you love your daughter and would never hurt her, sometimes your frustrations get the best of you.  It wouldn't have taken much more than your burst of anger to really hurt your daughter.  I think she's in a dangerous situation, and even though you don't want to lose her, you need to realize that by not doing anything about the situation, eventually you will lose her.  I just hope it's to family or cps.  If you love your daughter, you need to get help, even if that means she temporarily stays with family or something.  Talk to a doctor.  Pills are not bad unless you take them incorrectly.  I was on an anti-depressant for post partum depression.  They really helped.  

Answer 7

I'll pray for you,, hope everything works out

Answer 8

Now I'm not a nurse or a counselor or anything...but it sounds like you are borderline on depression.  You have a lot on your plate.  You're working to support your daughter.  Her father is in and out and can't stay in her life.  And your daughter has reached the wonderful age where she discovers separation anxiety and doesn't want to be away from you for one second (common, very common).  Your mom who helps take care of her is gone, putting even more on your plate.

I know you don't want pills, but you need to go talk to someone you can trust (because grabbing her head and motioning with a knife is not safe).  You need to get some help to make your life more balanced and happier both for you and the welfare of your child.

And to help your daughter stop "clinging"...does she have a favorite toy or blanket?  Sometimes the attention can be shifted onto that object instead of your presence.  Just don't take the toy or blanket away, she will go nuts.  Hope I helped!

Answer 9

Hey Hun...

Everyone has those days when you just don't know what to do...

Life will get better... Theres just a little speed bump right now..

I'll pray for you!

-A

Answer 10

Ill pray for you :)))! Sorry about ur actions. But remember life is what YOU make it. You can control ur actions and ur emotions. (I got christian books to help me with that), be happy in everything u do and it will make a major difference than being frustrated! Stop thinking about how ur life is so frustrating and all the negative stuff and start thinking positive! As for ur daughter, get her a baby sitter. Take ur time out of work and get one (your not gonna die if u take 1 or 2 days of!) you don't have to take pills if u decide not to, as for the dad it doesn't matter what he says its his child and no matter how bad it is he should be able to take care of his child! OVERALL, PRAY TO GOD ABOUT ALL UR TROUBLES, TALK TO A PASTOR IF POSSIBLE, TRY TO BE HAPPY CUZ UR CHILD IS A BLESSING, AND REPLACE ALL UR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS WITH POSITIVE 1NS. God is the best counselor :)    

Answer 11

Aww, I'm so sorry.

Don't worry, in the end, things will work out and everything will be fine.

And everyone has these impulses randomly, they may not be common, but when people are very frustated, and it goes beyond the point of..normal anger, they do/think things that they really do not mean.

It's just the frustration thinking, its not really you =]

Is there a daycare center you could take her to?

A friends house?

Something like that for while your out busy?

Answer 12

you definitely need to talk to a professional.  even if they do have to take your daughter away for a little bit its better than your mind snapping and you doing something you will regret for the rest of your life.  please please please get some professional help!!!

Answer 13

I'll be praying!

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Answer 14

I'll pray for you. Maybe you should spend more time with her. I know you may think what will it do but it's been proved the that if you spend more time with your baby and hold her and play with her she will be much happier. It will be okay...

Answer 15

I think you need a break from your daughter. Have you considered putting her in daycare? It will give you a break. You are smart in not wanting to talk to the father, yeah, DON'T. If a custody issue ever comes up, he will definitely use that against you. You should become friends with women who have babies your daughter's age. It would solve your problem of being alone, and your daughter will be able to socially interact with children her age. (Social skills are nessecary for small children to learn.) Remember, just because you are a mother, doesn't mean you have to totally give up your life. Yeah, it does mean you must give up a lot of things, but you need friends your own age, too.  

Answer 16

OMG you are way over worked... Take a deep breath and consider all these options... I no you love your daughter but maybe you are not ready for a child consider putting her up for adoption...

Find a teenager looking to make some money and have her look after your beloved baby.. take her to a park, take her for walks that kind of thing.

Another option is finding a trustworthy daycare and give yourself a break for those couple of days... and if you like the daycare maybe when your mom gets back keep your daughter in the daycare for 1or2 days and your mother would only have to watch her 1 or 2 days...

I REALLY WISH YOU ALL THE BEST AND REMEMBER YOUR DAUGHTER LOVES U NO MATTER WHAT YOU END UP DOING

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