I NEED HELP! Please someone kind take the time to read this ?

Question

I'm in a weird situation. I have these 2 close friends. 1 of them comes over every single week because our parents are close friends. The other I used to be best friends with a year ago but she back stabbed me because she simply isn't loyal and I know this. (She back stabbed me.) Although I know she's no one to call a best friend and isn't a good person, I still love her for some reason and admit she has become a part of me. The girl that my family is also close with's name is let's say Mary. Well it was Mary's birthday and We all planned to go to her house to celebrate for 2 sleep overs in a row. Well on the way something went wrong. She is a different person when she is with my backstabbing friend (they are best friends.) She was constantly giving my sister an attitude and was teasing and picking on her like crazy. I stood up for my sister in a kind way, but she got too offended and arrogant. Her and my backstabbing friend separated themselves for a good hour, (obviously talking bad about me and my sister.) Then, my sister comfronted our backstabbing friend saying she is Mary's slave and is her "female dog" and does whatever she wants. So we talked it out but Mary refused she did anything wrong of course- and backstabber took her side. My sister tried being the bigger person for family reasons and others and we settled the arguement. But the next day, my sister was casually looking through backstabbers phone with a bunch of rude texts to Mary talking about us. She was making fun of how we always watch what we eat and how "annoying" it is... all these things. She didn't deny saying those things, but this situation is like the one we had when we first broke off becoming friends, reminding us of what she did for her to earn the title "backstabber." What should I do? Our families are close with Mary and we see her every week and I go to the gym with backstabber all the time and she's sadly a part of me.. help??

Answer 1

look, i've been thrugh a lot a lot alot of friends.one of my bestfriends even  hooked up with my first love ( nd who i lost my virginity to) right after he stopped talking 2 me!!!! i think it would be best to just cut them off. i kno it's hard and you want 2 be there friends  bad but youll find wayyy better friends then that. i've been in situations like urs before too trust me its not fun . get out of the situation now. with u still being there friends after that they propally think they can do anything they want nd youll always be there. i kno 'mary' may come over your house a lot but ignore her.. trust me its for the best

Answer 2

They obviously don't care to be friends, and aren't giving you any reasons to be friends with them.  Make some new friends, and find something else you can do during the day so that you can get away from them. You don't have to feel obligated to hang out with them just because your parents are friends with their parents.  If they aren't treating you right, then they're not your friends anyways, so you're not losing anything.

Answer 3

Time to get some new friends and change to another gym, or go there on off times and days when backstabber doesn't go. If backstabber is a control freak, she may have Mary under her thumb, maybe has some personal dirt on her that she'll blab if Mary ever comes to her senses about her. Hanging around with people you don't trust is bad news. Once you get other friends to share time with who respect each other, you'll feel stronger about running into the ex-friends. Hang out with your sister or another friend when your families get together. Eventually, Mary probably won't tag along with her family. You have your entire life to make friends and hopefully you will find that BFF that so many of us have. It hurts alot now, but the more you distance yourself from negative people and their baggage, the happier you will be. Good luck!

Answer 4

I have read the whole thing, and I think its time to act mature. This is the world, this is human nature, most people are back stabbers, nice people are rarely found. I have always faced people like this, and I have finally realised that the world will not change for u- u need to change according to the world. So it will be a wise thing to let them do whatever they want, talk to them normally, do not react to anything they say, ignore their insults, and let them burn with anger of failure inside.  

Answer 5

well,obviously since you guys are so close with family then you need to have a serious talk as mature adults.if that does not solve your problem then you need to back away and not talk to her or be around her.if she asks why then explain to her again and let her know that is why you choose not to be around her.

Answer 6

Mary and the back stabber are more concerned with being bullies and remaining friends, than they are with any friendship with you and your sister.

The fact that Mary is two faced, and will act one way when the back stabber is not around, and act completely different in her presence is enough reason not to associate with her.  Why should you reward her ability to be two faced, by continuing to be her friend?

And this back stabbing friend... is no friend at all.  The only message you are sending her is that she can abuse you any time she wants, and you will come back for more... because that is what you continue to do.

Do not associate any more with either of them, any more.

On a side note, there is no "Casually looking" through anyone's phone and text messages.  Regardless of the truth you found there, that is an invasion of privacy, no matter how much of a back stabber she is.