I Need Help With This Boy Majorly Please!?

Question

So there's this guy, lets call him Bob. Lets say me and Bob have been talking for about 4 months now and all thorough out the summer we haven't seen each other but have talked via phone and texting almost every day. We planed to hang out numerous times through out summer but the plans always fell through. Whenever we talked he flirted tons and tons which is usually a sign that he would like me. By the way he's not really a flirt. But then there are days that would pass and he wouldn't text me like maybe a week or so. I think i have made it pretty obvious that i like him without straight up telling him, to the point that he has to be very dim-witted or stupid to not know. I think he likes me and my friends do as well and i just don't understand why he won't just admit it and tell me. I'm usually the one starting off all the conversations and making the first move like texting him first and calling him. He's gotten better at the texting part though. We talk almost every day and i'm absolutely crazy about him. When he went to this rave kinda party/concert he called me so obviously he was thinking of me. He has offered to teach me to play my guitar better and buy me this perfume that i want which was kind of a joke but he did. He texted this me this morning before school and i saw him today since it was the first day of school and it was amazing. He looked hotter than ever and gave me that s**y feeling you get when you see somebody and just the rush. I don't know if this is a coincidence or not but i was writing my friend Jessica a note and in it i had randomly put i do not like green eggs and ham it had just popped into my head and he was wearing a shirt that had something to do with green eggs and ham. I could really use anybody's help or advice. I don't know if he just wants to take things slowly or if i should just give up on what will possibly never happen. Suggestions on what to do please?

Answer 1

let me tell you that i have been involved on the guy end of a very similar relationship. this girl and i hooked up, texted each other for a long time and saw each other at school after, but she was moving to new york for the summer so we stopped texting/talking on a daily basis because it would have been really painful not to see each other for 3 months. basically, from a guy's point of view, HE LIKES YOU A LOT. this part is not negotiable. he likes you. guys dont talk to girls like that and buy them things because they want to be friends.

and on that note, guys never want to be friends. they just don't. unless, im sorry to say it because it seems shallow but its true, you're really ugly or fat. then they just want to be friends. but if you can honestly rate yourself a 5 or above (on  a scale of 1-10) then he wants you.

but guys are stupid, as im sure you know. we dont like making the first move. the fact that you girls hate making the first move even more really complicates things. it seems like he is giving you all the signs, but he is just shy enough to not make the first move. perhaps it's because girls often use guys and flirt with them to get them to buy things for them, and then want to be "just friends." you dont have to rip his pants off, but then next time you see him alone, go give him a hug and hold him and look at him with cute little doe eyes and pout your lips. if he doesnt take then hint but seems to like where it is going, then you can tease him JUST A LITTLE for not making the first move. if you tell him hes a p***y, that wont work, but if you say, 'what, do i have to write it out for you?' or 'can i make myself more obvious?' then he should get it.  try this after school when he's not around friends or people. either that or when you're together, take his hand and lead him to somewhere private and try that. if he doesnt get it then (very possible, remember, guys are stupid) then just tell him how you feel. if what you say is true, he will be so relieved and happy that you reciprocate his feelings that you should get whatever it is that you want.  

Answer 2

now that you can see him in school again let him see how much you like him by being touchy feely with him and try to spend more time with him. if things are meant to be they will work out. just make sure you guys actually spend time together because talking on the phone but not actually hanging out will never work.

Answer 3

The best advice I can give you is not to give up. You like the guy, and it seems to me like he's, at the very least, interested in you. There's still a very good chance that things might go well between you two. Don't let something petty or coincidental destroy something potentially wonderful! Since I'm a guy, I can tell you this: when the girl seems to give up, we do too (when it's in early stages like flirting). So keep letting him know you're interested, it may well be that he's just nervous. I still remember when I first asked out my girlfriend of almost eight months now, and I was so nervous and bad at doing it that she eventually just said "do you wanna ask me out?"

In short my advice is not to give up and to stick it out. It sounds like he's interested in you, and you aren't gonna gain anything by simply giving up, and you're not gonna lose anything by choosing to continue trying. I hope this helps, and good luck!

Answer 4

I would suggest you continue being friends with him so that you can still see the other things he does. It's hard to always give meanings to signs because they don't have the assurance about what he really is thinking of.

It would be nicer if he's always the one who's making the first moves, you know? With that you can already consider thinking that he really does care for you.

I suggest you don't assume much because there's still a big chance of you misinterpreting little signs. Just try and keep sensing things. Wait for him to show more things you could really hold on to.

Answer 5

u better speak up before somebody else

gets him. go after what u want, either

way u'll end up happy letting him know at least.

Go ahead!

good luck! ;)