I Need You To Explain Whats Wrong With Me Please!!!

Question

Okay so I have been having these feelings, And to me they are not just feeling they are what I believe. I believe that there is no such thing as love. People say they are in love than they split up. Every girls dream is to find their true love, I did to at some point but it just doesnt seem to me like that will never happen. I know Im still young but I still doesnt believe in love. Can you help me with this? And no one in my family ever gotten a divorice but there was some cheating.

Answer 1

Life is a roller coaster with no happy Cinderella ending not even for people with lots of money so life brings in people into your life good with the bad you just have to choose love is partnership best friends and good times with the bad times

Answer 2

There is true love that can last for years. however it is very rare and far between. Who knows who will find it, or with whom, or even when.

But it doesn't pay, to shut yourself down to it happening to you.

Just don't expect it to happen to you, with your next boyfriend, or the one after that.

People fall in love, and that's fine for a while, but to keep the flame of love alive, is a job, one that you need to work on, day after day. People who have been married for thirty, forty years, or so, have had their set backs, and arguements, but they didn't give up.They knew they loved their mate, and were determined, come h**l or high water, to stick it out.

Now that's  true love, not the sort of thing, poets write about.

As you have seen in your family, there were some who slipped up, but at least they didn't quit, when the going got rough, they worked through it, and hopefully, became stronger for it.

Hence no divorces so far.

Answer 3

I think you will again believe in love.. there is nothing wrong with you. I'm sure those in your family who have cheated at one time loved the ones they ended up cheating on. People are not perfect and therefore fail in life at times. One of these days you may find yourself head over heels in love..  My husband didn't marry me until he was 40.. he'd been a bachelor.. he was sure love didn't really exist for him and that others were just exaggerating it.. but he found me..and he now believes wholeheartedly. Love is an emotion! It'll happen when it does.. you can't force it or fake it because you know in your heart when it's real and when it's not. You may be able to convince others you're in love but if you're not.. you know it.. same as when you are.. you know it! Then you don't have to fake it. ;-))  

Answer 4

A lot of people get lust and love mixed. You haven't met anyone that attracts you yet.  When you get a little older you will understand more.

Answer 5

Could be you are scared of the power someone you might love has to hurt you? I am, but there is that saying ..better to have loved and lost than never loved at all.....love takes courage.

I can understand how misdemeanours in the family can have a terribly offputting effect on feelings about love as I had the same in my family, but you have to consider there are all sorts of things we don't know about other peoples relationships. All sorts of hidden energies and inner decisions people make secret even from themselves, let alone outside the relationship.

It's perhaps best to focus on your own  relationships...and do your best by love whatever that means to you.

Answer 6

Love's the same as happiness, anger and sadness. It's an emotion that can change over time.

It doesn't change as often as the others (lust does, not love), but it can change as people and circumstances (job demands, family pressure, etc.) change over time.

It's not uncommon for married people to fall in and out of love, sometimes a couple of times. Sometimes they divorce or separate when they fall out of love; sometimes they don't.

That it.  

Answer 7

Nope. No one can help you; it's a belief, and a belief is complete by itself. Of course, I don't think you really believe this...call it a hunch. But if you really do, what could you possibly want help with?

Answer 8

I kinda see what you are saying. This does happen to everyone, but I think us girls have the most problems related to this and trying to figure out if love will ever come for us. To me, love doesn't exist either, but my advice would have to be, don't rush love, wait for it to come even if you have negative thoughts about it. There will be someone who will love you for who you are and will respect you. Obviously, life isn't perfect, so for now, just enjoy life and try things you've always wanted to do. The only real love you can find is in friendship or family.